Author: Neil Miller

  • Dealing With Discipleship Blocks

    Dealing With Discipleship Blocks

    At times, those we are ministering to face blocks in their discipleship journeys. These blocks develop from traumatic experiences, disappointments, and challenging life events. This article describes an innovative approach to help people overcome these blocks so that they can continue to move forward in their relationship with the Lord.

    Stressed woman

    Three Examples

    Samantha was stressed. Her country of ministry had recently gone through a violent change in government. The building where her husband worked was set ablaze, halting the ministry activities that used to take place there. In addition, she was facing several difficult relationships. To top it all off, she developed debilitating headaches. She was afraid she would have to leave the field.

    Safiya was a very outgoing young woman. She always seemed to be laughing with a circle of women around her. Inside, however, things are not so happy. She wrestled with suicidal thoughts and believed that people spoke negatively of her. She had been married, but her husband left her to go abroad. Eventually she discovered that her husband had married another woman. She told me, “No one loves me. No one knows my pain.”

    Several years ago, I faced a challenging period in leadership. First, a local board member tried to wrest control of a project that owned valuable assets. Then an angry former employee brought a serious allegation to the government, putting our entire organization at risk. In addition, I feared that the many white workers on our team were an easy target for increasingly frequent militant attacks. During this period, I developed insomnia. My sleep problems were severe enough that I was afraid that I would be unable to continue in my leadership role. One day as I went to pray, I got frustrated. What’s the point? God doesn’t answer my prayers.

    In each of the above cases, Samantha, Safiya, and myself had begun to believe lies – lies about ourselves, lies about God, and lies about the situations we faced. These lies were discipleship blocks which limited our ministry effectiveness, impinged on our intimacy with Jesus, and had the potential to severely derail us in our walk with the Lord.

    Main Idea

    In this post I will describe a way to identify the lies that are blocking people in their discipleship journeys. I will show how, through a meeting with Jesus, they can replace the lies with truth, resulting in forward movement in discipleship and ongoing ministry effectiveness.

    Assumption

    A core assumption in this post is that God continues to talk to his children through the voice of the Holy Spirit. Stated another way, Jesus will come and live with us (John 14:18). And if he lives with us, he will certainly communicate with us. Jesus does not only speak through dramatic visionary experiences as he did for Paul on the Damascus Road (Acts 9:1-6) and for Ananias in Damascus itself (Acts 9:10–16). The Lord also speaks through less dramatic dreams and night visions (Acts 16:9) and through meditation on Scripture (Daniel 9:1–2; Acts 1:15–22). One of the primary ways he speaks, however, is through thoughts in our hearts given to us by the Holy Spirit as he did for Peter (Acts 10:19), Samuel (see 1 Samuel 16:6–7), and many other servants of God.[i]

    The Source of Discipleship Blocks

    From Satan’s conversation with Eve where he said, “You will not certainly die” (Genesis 3:4), we learn that implanting lies in hearts has been one of Satan’s core strategies from the very beginning. Indeed, Jesus teaches us that the language of lies is Satan’s native language (John 8:44).

    Not only in Eden do we see lies and false beliefs rooted in people’s hearts. Peter demonstrated a deeply entrenched false belief system when he rebuked Jesus for talking about his death (Matthew 16:21–23). If demonic lies are not confronted, they can cause people to abandon their faith (1 Timothy 4:1).

    So how can we confront Satan’s lies and help people move forward in their discipleship journeys? Let’s take another look at our three opening examples.

    Samantha and Her Headaches

    Samantha came for prayer, seeking relief from her headaches. As we chatted about her ministry and the things that were going on in her life, I felt that we needed to deal with agreements with the enemy she had unwittingly made before I prayed for healing. Agreements are where we have taken on the enemy’s way of thinking. In other words, these are lies we believe or false thinking patterns we have adopted.

    I prayed a simple prayer asking the Lord to bring these agreements to mind. I then gave Samantha a pen and notepad so she could write down what the Holy Spirit revealed to her. Samantha noted the following agreements:

    1. I need to prove that I am enough
    2. I will never be able to please others
    3. My future in my country of ministry will be cut short
    4. God won’t heal me; I am helpless and unresourced
    5. The future ends in failure

    I marvelled at the clarity that Samantha received simply by taking five minutes to listen to Jesus. Asking Jesus to identify the lies, however, was only the first step. The next step was to ask him to speak his truth to counteract the lies. We took the lies to Jesus one by one and listened to his responses.

    1. I need to prove that I am enough

    Jesus gave Samantha a picture of a garden. Jesus was working in the garden and Samantha was sitting on some steps beside the garden. Jesus said to her, “Watch me work.” Tears came to Samantha’s eyes, indicating that Jesus had spoken into a deep area of her soul.

    2. I will never be able to please others

    Samantha saw a long winding path. There were people working the ground beside the path – her ministry colleagues and those who had spoken discouraging words to her. Samantha saw herself walking past these people, following Jesus. She heard him say, “You will have so many years walking with me. Don’t focus on others.” Since this answer seemed to touch on point 3, we asked Jesus about point 4.

    4. God won’t heal me. I am helpless andunresourced.

    As she reflected in Jesus’s presence, Samantha realized there were people around her who were willing to help her. She said, “God will bring the people I need to me.”

    5. The future ends in failure.

    For the last lie, I suggested that Samantha bring her dreams and offer them to the Lord. She heard Jesus say, “I put those dreams there. I will make them happen in my time.”

    A simple meeting with Jesus helped Samantha to identify the lies she had been believing and replaced those lies with truth.

    I checked in with Samantha the next day, and she was in a much better place emotionally. About three weeks later she reported, “Neil, I had a very encouraging day. I had a ton of things to do, and I didn’t take medicine for my headaches.” Samantha discovered that a dietary supplement was helping her headaches and a book she was reading helped her to banish her fears. The Lord had provided Samantha with the resources she needed.

    Safiya and Her Emotional Pain

    As with Samantha, when I sat with Safiya, we prayed and asked the Lord to identify lies that she had been believing. Then we asked the Lord to replace each lie with truth. In just a few minutes, Safiya identified six lies which I quickly scribbled down in my notebook. We then took each lie to Jesus. As Safiya related what Jesus was telling her, I jotted down the truths from Jesus in my notebook as well. At the end of the listening time, I read the lies and truths back to Safiya.

    The joy on her face demonstrated that Safiya’s outlook had been changed through that time of listening to Jesus. The next day, in a meeting with her colleagues, she shared how the Lord had helped her through this prayer time.

    God Doesn’t Answer My Prayers

    After I thought to myself, “What’s the point? God doesn’t answer my prayers” I realized that something was wrong with my perspective. I decided to bring this issue to the Lord and see if I could hear his voice. As I quieted my heart before him, a childhood memory of not getting the toy set I wanted came to my mind. I thought this memory was a distraction to my prayers, so I tried to push it out so that I could focus on what the Lord was saying. But the memory kept coming back.

    Finally, I wondered if the Lord wanted to speak to me through that memory. I recalled my parents taking me into a shop and finding the perfect toy for me: a model car that I could assemble myself, complete with a little electric motor to make it run. But since the box had been opened, the shopkeeper couldn’t guarantee that all the parts were still present. In the end, my parents didn’t buy the model car.

    As I reflected on that memory, the Lord spoke to my heart, “Neil, I have given you so much more than that model car.” That was indeed true. Having obtained a degree in engineering and then having gained work experience in designing, building, and testing electronic prototypes with very expensive tools, the Lord had given me infinitely more than that model car.

    But the Lord was touching on something deeper. Through that conversation the Lord was telling me that he was the giver of good gifts. He already had given me much bigger things than I could have asked for. In future he will continue to give me bigger things than I can ask for. This little prayer experience with Jesus broke a major lie I had been believing and ultimately resulted not only in better sleep, but a far more intimate relationship with the Lord.[ii]

    Conclusion

    Our colleagues, the people whom we minister to, and even we ourselves face blocks in our discipleship journeys because of lies that we believe. These lies hinder intimacy with Jesus and hamper ministry effectiveness. We can remove these lies by having a meeting with Jesus where we ask him to identify the lies and then ask him to replace the lies with his truth.

    The next time you are in a discipleship situation where you suspect Satan’s lies are present, rather than trying to deal with the lies through your own reasoning, consider inviting the person you are discipling to listen to Jesus himself and then report back to you what he heard.

    [i] For an extended treatment of the subject of listening to God’s voice, I refer the reader to Mark Virkler’s 62-minute audio teaching on the subject found at https://www.cwgministries.org/Four-Keys-to-Hearing-Gods-Voice.

    [ii] Dr. Karl Lehman has written comprehensively on how we can process our painful memories with Jesus. See Karl Lehman, The Immanuel Approach: For Emotional Healing and for Life(Evanston: Immanuel Publishing, 2016) and An Introduction to the Immanuel Approach for Mental Health Professionals(Immanuel Publishing, 2023).

    This post is reprinted from EMQ, Volume 61, Issue 4. Copyright © 2025 by Missio Nexus. Used with permission.

    Photo Credits

    Burning building photo by Stephen Radford on Unsplash

    Stressed woman photo by Simran Sood on Unsplash

  • God Told Me!

    God Told Me!

    Rev. Paul Woodburn is the pastor of our home church in Toronto. He wrote a great congregational letter in January. With his permission, I am sharing it here.


    1 Thessalonians 5:19–22 (ESV)

    Example 1

    “God told me,” the visiting evangelist said, “that there is someone here who is suicidal. If you come forward for prayer right now, God will set you free.”
     
    What he didn’t know, could not know, was that afternoon a woman had come early to the tent to speak with him. Instead of finding the semi-famous evangelist, she had found me. I was a twenty-something-wet-behind-the-ears, tired and frustrated volunteer worship leader setting up equipment for the evangelistic service scheduled for later that evening.

    There is no way he could have known that she had slit one of her wrists before noticing the ad in the paper advertising the crusade. No one told him that her afternoon search for him was her one final, desperate lunge at hope.
     
    But I knew.
     
    The moment the evangelist spoke those words I began to scan the faces of the crowd. It was the after-service prayer-time and I was at the piano gently playing background chords. Given where I was sitting on the stage, I had a clear view of the crowd that had gathered that night in one corner of the parking-lot of the local fair grounds. I finally spotted her tucked into the shadows. She was standing just outside the tent as though frightened of what she might find inside.

    As the evangelist continued his call two or three people stepped forward for prayer. Obviously, in a crowd that size there would be many people wrestling with suicide. I freely confess, that as he prayed with those who had come forward, I thought, this woman, still hiding in the shadows, had lost her chance to receive a miraculous touch from God. But when he had finished praying with those who had come forward, the evangelist continued to call.

    “There is someone, God has told me, a woman, you’ve come here desperate. God can change all of that.”

    My intent is not to argue the point. I am not going to try to explain it. I am not going to debate with you whether God still speaks to His people or not.

    I have seen it. What’s more I have lived it. I know it’s real.

    But…

    Example 2

    “God told me.” That was his reply as he sat confronted by the leadership of the church. Some were confused, some were angry, most were hurt.

    Their pastor had been having an affair with a married woman.

    “How could you?” they wanted to know. Probably not the best question to ask given the situation but understandable given the circumstances.

    His answer?

    “God told me to.”

    God told me…

    I don’t know what it is with Christians. We like to argue in extremes. Then we love to make our extremes normative for all people, for all time, in all places. One side argues “God speaks to people! Look at the proof!” The other side argues, “It’s a manipulation tactic used by people who simply want to have their way! Look at the proof!”
     
    Couldn’t both be true? Couldn’t it be true that God still speaks to His people AND that there are people who attempt to use “God told me” as a means of manipulation?
     
    So what do we do? How do we know?
     
    Check out 1 Thessalonians 5:12-22.
     
    Did you catch it? In the New Testament Church hearing God speak is not an “individual sport”. It requires the discernment of the Body. The BODY!
     
    What if instead of saying, “God told me we need to do this NOW!” We were to say, “I think God might be leading us in this direction. Can we exercise 1 Thessalonians 5:21 together? What do you, my brothers and sisters in the faith, think about this direction?”
     
    Using my opening examples, the first, “God told me”—with the evangelist and the suicidal woman—would have been (and was) affirmed.
     
    The second “God told me” of the adulterous pastor would have been challenged. Two families, a church body, and an entire local community could have been spared immense sorrow and deep wounds.
     
    Maybe God was onto something when He called us to interdependent, covenant community!

  • An Unforgettable Adventure

    An Unforgettable Adventure

    “Asking for God’s guidance, compared to living by our own ideas, is the difference between the squeak of a mouse and the roar of a lion.”

    Where should we go on our first vacation?

    My wife, Joyce, and I were in our mid-twenties. One day she said to me, “Where should we go for our first vacation?”

    I said, “Well, why don’t I practice what I’ve been teaching and ask God about this?” At the time I’d been pastoring a small country church just east of Calgary, Alberta, Canada. I’d started a 4-part teaching series on “How to Hear the Voice of God”.

    After our discussion I went into our bedroom, closed the door, and knelt down beside our bed. I started praying and quoting Proverbs 3:5: “Trust in the Lord with all your heart…” I then declared, “Oh Lord, you are completely trustworthy because you are all knowing, all wise, all powerful and complete in love. There is no reason to not trust you.

    The verse continued: “…and lean not unto your own understanding…”

    “Oh Lord”, I prayed, “it makes total sense to not lean on my own understanding because my understanding is very limited compared to yours.”

    “In all your ways acknowledge Him…”

    Based on God’s character and limitless understanding, acknowledging Him for direction seems to make a lot of sense. I also used my imagination to stretch my faith and my normal boundaries. “Lord, if for this holiday time you want us to go to India or Russia or South America or just down the road to Rosebud, Alberta, We will go.”

    The final part of verse 6 ends with a promise: “…and He shall direct thy paths.”

    James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives …” Here is another promise from God to give us wisdom. It goes on in verse 6: “But when you ask, you must believe…”

    So, once we ask God for guidance we must get up off our knees with faith. If you have faith, you will be listening and watching with joyful expectation for His clear guidance in answer to your question. And that is exactly what I did, and that is exactly what the Lord did!

    All that week impressions regarding the general location of our time away came at me from every angle.

    I was in a meeting one evening and someone started talking about a man in relation to Taiwan. One afternoon I opened a magazine, and a travel ad jumped out at me: “Come to Thailand.” A couple of weeks before, Joyce and I had been listening to some reports on the plight of the Vietnamese boat people and the Cambodians suffering under Pol Pot’s evil regime. All of this was pointing to Asia.

    After about three days Joyce asked me, “So, where are we going?” I said, “Well, I think I know, but let’s give it a couple more days so you can hear too.” On that Joyce walked down the hall to our bedroom to pray. When she came out she said, “Well, one thing I know, this will be a holiday with a purpose.” Then, after a long pause she looked at me and said, “We’re going to Asia aren’t we?”

    A few days later, a friend of mine called. During the course of the conversation I said, “Hey, Joyce and I are going on an incredible holiday half way around the world!”

    He replied with a chuckle, “Where? China?” His seemingly off-handed comment couldn’t have been more accurate. Wow!

    Normally a couple like us would think about going a short distance to a holiday resort with hot springs, or a cabin near a good hiking spot, but here we were being directed half-way around the world.

    Seeing as we’d both been involved with Youth With A Mission when we were younger, we decided to look up where YWAM might be located in Asia. Yes, there was a base in Hong Kong, so that is where we headed.

    One day when we were visiting the base, a man from another mission was there. He approached us and asked if we would like to take some Bibles into China. What?! I wasn’t so sure I wanted to do that. Everything in Asia was strange to us, and we were new comers to the area. But, I prayed about it and God said, “Do you remember when you were still back in Canada, I told you that when you arrive in the Far East I’d tell you why I sent you, well this is one of the reasons.”

    A few days later Joyce and I found ourselves standing on a dock along the Pearl River in Canton City about 80 miles up from Hong Kong. We got there on a hydrofoil along with other tourists. This was the beginning of our scary adventure. Scary because the communist government of China was not happy to have the Bible come into their country. However, at that time in 1980, if they found you with Bibles at the border, they would just take them away and you could pick them up on the way out.

    Joyce and I experienced some delays in getting our Bibles to the right people. The people we were supposed to meet never showed up. At one point we thought we’d just give them all to the government church we’d attended on the Sunday morning. But just before we moved in that wrong direction, a Chinese man dressed in Western clothes came up to us and started talking. He had come to check on how the church in China was doing. He ended up coming to our hotel room where we could visit.

    While we were visiting, there was a knock at the door. “Oh no, who’s that?” When I opened it, there stood the contacts we’d missed the night before. It turned out they’d gone to the wrong hotel. But now we had someone who could translate for us as we asked questions about what it was really like to be a Christian in China.

    “Yes, we really do need Bibles”, we were told. “In some situations 300 people have to share one Bible. And yes, it is hard to be a Christian in China because of the persecution.” In the end it all worked out, and we will never forget that experience as long as we live.

    But there was more. After two weeks in Hong Kong we flew to Thailand. Again we visited a YWAM base in Bangkok. Unexpectedly, we had an opportunity to join a small team that was going to visit Cambodian refugees along the Thai-Cambodian border. These were the terrifying days of Pol Pot and his Khmer Rouge army which was terrorizing the whole country. Thousands were executed, especially the educated like doctors, teachers, and former military and police. Religious citizens were killed as well along with those who refused re-education. By the end of the war, over one million were murdered.

    Seeing the refugee camps in Thailand and also the Vietnamese boat people in Hong Kong, deeply impacted Joyce and I. A year and a half after returning home from that six week trip, Joyce and I joined a YWAM ministry in Hong Kong and later spear-headed an Indo-Chinese refugee ministry in Edmonton, Alberta. However, our long-term mission field turned out to be an entirely different place, a place most people knew very little about at the time. Today, however, it is in the news almost every day!

    On November 26, 1982, I was having a quiet time and asked, “Lord what country should I pray for today?” Without warning “GREENLAND” popped into my mind. I was stunned because I knew nothing about this place. I got up off my knees, went to the map on the wall and looked at Greenland. “Wow, are there even any people there?” I wondered.

    Well, we found out there are people there! On my very first trip to Greenland in July of 1984 I was all alone with no contacts, no cell phone, no credit card, and limited finances. But I experienced supernatural guidance on that three-week trip, and complete provision for all I needed. It’s been almost 42 years since I made that first trip, and I’m still at it.

    One of the most valuable lessons we learned over the years ministering in Greenland, was how the Lord came to heal the broken hearted and set the captive free.

    Errol is the author of Out of the Ice: The Healing Power of Christ in Greenland, available from YWAM Publishing and Amazon.

    You can watch a documentary about Greenland here.

    Photo Credits
    Hong Kong Photo by Nic Low on Unsplash
    Greenland Iceberg Photo by Tina Rolf on Unsplash 
    Houses in Greenland Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

  • I Woke Up to a Dream!

    I Woke Up to a Dream!

    Marja Kostamo says of herself, “At 21 years of age I was desperate. The chaos and uncertainty of our lives was making me lose my mind. I cried out to God and He asked me for one hour a day with Him. How do I find an hour in my already endless, crazy day? What at first were hours of dry praying and reading the Bible, opened up into a treasure hunt because God started to answer my prayers. I began to hear the voice of God.”

    I met Marja at a conference last year and asked her to share a story for this newsletter.


    I Asked the Lord for a Dream

    It says in the Bible that in the last days God will give dreams and visions (Acts 2:17-21). It also says that He wants to give the Holy Spirit to those who ask. In fact, it says “how much more will your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him” (Luke 11:13). Dreams and visions are part of the activity of the Holy Spirit, so I asked for a dream….

    ….and I woke up to a dream. This is what I dreamt.

    It was a fall day, getting colder, grey, and moving toward winter. There was a lot of activity in a hospital and in a large parking lot of a nearby shopping center. Groups were meeting and talking, mostly they were Christians I knew. We were getting ready to go somewhere. There had been instructions given to quickly pack a bag and leave everything else behind. I was going around making sure everyone was doing this and packing my things too, trying to figure out what to take and what to leave.

    Then it was time to board the ship, ready or not! It was an old cruise ship now used for what seemed like an evacuation. It began to move down a river and soon was out in the open ocean. As I walked down a hall with a teenage girl, the lights began to flicker and then go out, leaving us in complete darkness. I thought, “This ship is falling apart!” We made our way to a lounge with big windows that gave natural light.

    A picture of a boat in a storm, illustrating that God speaks through dreams.

    Suddenly an announcement came over the speakers, saying, “The ship is going to flip!” Immediately I felt us tilting. Within seconds we were in a roll and under the water. I was flying around and saw the water roiling and churning through the big windows. I thought This is it.We’re going to die now.

    Just as quickly as the roll began, we came back to an upright position. We had done a 360 degree roll, and then carried on our journey. It was like a kayak roll.

    I woke up knowing this was a dream from God, but what did it mean? I asked for the interpretation and used a dream symbol book but nothing fit. Nothing had that “aha” sense of being right. My husband walked into the room and settled into his recliner. He asked if I had been listening to any of the new music on YouTube, Psalms turned into songs. He put one on and as I listened, I quickly recognized it was Psalm 46.

    When these following words were sung, I knew this was the interpretation:

    Therefore we will not fear
    Though the earth gives way
    Though the mountains be removed
    Into the heart of the sea
    Though its waters roar and foam
    (Psalm 46:2-3)

    Why won’t we fear? Because…

    God is in the midst of her She shall not be moved God will help her when the morning dawns (Psalm 46:5)

    Though the promised birth pangs Jesus spoke about are increasing in the earth (Matthew 24), and the nations are making an uproar (Psalm 46:6), Jesus is the Captain (Joshua 5:14) of the boat and will lead His people safely. “He led them safely, so that they did not fear, but the sea engulfed their enemies.” Psalm 78:53.

    Thank you Marja! Marja Kostamo is the author of Treasures of Darkness.

    Image Credits: Ship amidst storm and Stormy sea voyage by StockCake

  • Presence-Based Deliverance

    Presence-Based Deliverance

    Terry Bone is a former software systems analyst, pastor, and the author of The Great Exchange: Passing the Baton Between Generations of World Shapers. He is also a mentor and a personal friend. On a call a couple of weeks ago, Terry shared the following story of a deliverance based on the presence of God with me.


    ­In the Gospels we see on more than one occasion that as soon as Jesus showed up, demonic forces would panic. His presence was enough to cause them to begin to lose their grip on people’s minds and bodies.

    Recently, during a weekend workshop on the topic of the person and gifts of the Holy Spirit, one of the participants confided in my wife and me. She told us that she had almost checked herself into the psychiatric ward of a local hospital that day due to the voices in her head that were urging her to self-harm. On her way to the hospital, her vehicle seemed to be unsafe to drive, so she turned around and came to the workshop with her husband instead.

    This woman was eager to have the Lord bring a resolution to the problems she was facing. During ministry time the first evening, she confided this story to us. We sensed that it wasn’t the moment to try to discover and deal with the root issues in her life, so we prayed a simple prayer of protection and blessing.

    Worshipping and experiencing God's presence alone can result in a deliverance from evil spirits.

    In the course of one of the sessions the next day, this woman suddenly felt ill. She went to the bathroom and threw up. After returning to the main session, she again felt ill, and a second time went and threw up in the bathroom. Afterwards she said, “I feel really good. The voices are gone!” During the rest of the seminar, she enthusiastically joined in the worship times.

    Although there might also have been a physical component to her condition, it was evident to us that the enemy of our souls had gained access to her thought life and had been hounding her with evil thoughts.

    What impressed me was that we didn’t need to employ any special prayers. We didn’t need to engage in a power encounter. The manifest presence of God was enough to bring deliverance to one who knew that Jesus is Lord and who was eager to be set free.

    Seeking to be a carrier of the presence of the Holy Spirit may be the most powerful weapon to add to our prayers in the name of Jesus when we are confronting demonic entities.

    Amen! Thank you, Terry!

  • Listening to Jesus and the Love of God

    Listening to Jesus and the Love of God

    We visited Shelly Olson, a busy mother of four, during a trip across Canada this summer. Shelly is one of the few people who has not forgotten the art of letter writing. My wife told me that she can write a letter while simultaneously singing to her children. Since my brain runs on exactly one track at a time, I decided to double-check the veracity of that claim. Shelly confirmed that she can indeed write while singing. She also told me that in Bible School she used to study Hebrew while singing and dancing in her room.

    Shelly wrote a beautiful letter to us, and with her permission, I am sharing parts of it with you.

    Windswept trees in a natural setting can help us meditate on the love of God.

    All photos in this post were taken from Shelly’s property

    Journaling and Making Time for Listening Prayer

    Neil, I really enjoyed your book, and it has inspired me—particularly to try mentoring others in listening to Jesus. But also, it’s been a reminder to make time and space in life for listening prayer. Also, to journal more as I tend to be a very infrequent journaler. I find it so encouraging to go back and read things from my spiritual journey when I have written stuff down. It’s cool that the start of your journey of really listening to Jesus started with God speaking to you of his love for you.

    A Bought of Depression and the Love of God

    A year or two ago when I was in a particularly fruitful season of prayer, marked by a lot of joy and peace in life, there came a day when I awoke with a heavy, discouraged heart. I felt oddly depressed and struggled to pray or feel anything but blech! I spent my morning driving to work as usual, in prayer, but nothing seemed to break through the gloom. I figured it probably was a spiritual attack of some kind. When I was nearly at work, the song I was listening to led me into prayerful contemplation of God’s love, hearing him speak it over me. Instantly I began to cry and be overwhelmed with joy and relief from the depressed state I was in.

    This puzzled me, as knowing God loves me hasn’t been something I’ve struggled with. My parents raised me with wonderful love and affirmation. I asked God for some clarity and He spoke to me: If you need to hear me speak my love over you, how much more do those who struggle with knowing they are loved.

    From that I was convicted that the foundation of prayer—the thing we need to start with and come back to over and over, is hearing God speak His love over us. “We love because He first loved us.”

    Creativity and Mentoring

    Another listening prayer experience from quite a few years ago is this. I grew up in a creatively gifted family with lots of artists and musicians. I felt like I had this depth of creativity bursting within me but no creative outlet. I kind of felt sad and frustrated, wishing I had some artistic gifting to express myself. Well, one day God showed me that He had created me to bring out beauty in other people and that this was to be my creative outlet. This brought me a sense of joy purpose in my life. 

    God has placed a lot of people in my life who really matter to me and who I long to help come alive, to thrive, in Christ. I’m an introvert and a busy mom of 4 and it can be hard to know how best to invest my time. Some of my closest friends are really struggling. Your book helped me see that leading them to Jesus to speak to them His life-giving words will be much better than me giving them my advice, guidance, etc. And I know listening to Jesus will help me to best know how to invest my time and energy.

    I’ve decided to start with doing some faith mentoring of my niece. She had a tough time last year in public school so she is doing distance education.

    Even Children Hear From God

    When my niece was around 1 ½ years old God encouraged me in a time of depression with her insistence every night that she wanted to pray for me. One day she said out of the blue during her bath time, “Jordan is healed, mommy.” Jordan was a man they knew who had been mysteriously ill and losing weight. Around the time she stated he was healed, the family heard that he had suddenly recovered from all symptoms.

    I sometimes feel rather awkward guiding others in listening to Jesus, but trust God will help me. Thanks for the book! 

    And thank you Shelly for sharing!

  • How Can I Know That I’m Hearing God Correctly?

    How Can I Know That I’m Hearing God Correctly?

    Sometimes people ask “How can I know that I am hearing God correctly?” There are a lot of ways to answer this question. We can talk about ways to test what we have heard from the Lord. (We cover this in week 3 of the Listening to God course). Or, we can also talk about our hunger for certainty and how this desire for certainty opposes a walk of faith.

    But I have frequently found that behind the general question is a specific, unhappy experience. The person has asked the Lord a question, thought they received an answer, acted on it, and then things have turned out badly. The person is left feeling confused. In this newsletter, we’ll talk about how to process such an experience.

    How to process a confusing experience

    Here are some thoughts on how to move forward in such a situation.

    I'm confused! How can I know that I am hearing God correctly?

    Photo by Sherise Van Dyk on Unsplash

    1) Describe what happened

    Often, what is not needed is a general answer to “How can I know that I am hearing God correctly?” What is needed is a way to process the painful experience.

    The first step in processing is to tell exactly what happened. If you are processing your painful experience with someone, you can explain the whole situation: the underlying event, what question you asked God, what answer you received, what action steps you took, and what finally happened. If you don’t have someone safe and wise to process with, you can describe all this in your journal.

    2) Describe your emotions

    When something goes badly, we may feel like we are a failure. Or we may feel angry at God. Or we may become dismissive and say, This life of trying to hear God’s voice doesn’t work for me. I’ll go and backslide for a while. (OK, maybe we don’t say that, but we might give up on trying to follow the Lord so closely.) Most of these emotions are signs that we are withdrawing from our relationship with God—exactly what the enemy wants. Identifying your emotions can show you whether you are withdrawing or not.

    3) Ask the Lord how he views you

    You may be surprised to find that the Lord is not judging or condemning you for your failure.

    4) Ask the Lord how he wants you to move forward

    We often want God to explain the whole situation in detail. We want him to tell us why things turned out the way they did. Sometimes God does explain things, but not always. Normally, the only thing we really need to do is take a single step forward. You can say to the Lord, “Lord, this is the situation I am in. What is one step forward that I can take?”

    Does this make sense? Let me know what you think.

    Photo of man sitting on the ground by Nathan Cowley

  • The Sleep Talker

    The Sleep Talker

    While Anna was still very young, her parents took her with them as they ministered to the sick and demonically oppressed. For Anna, praying for healing and deliverance was a normal part of Christian life. However, in this story she shares an experience that ended in a disappointment.

    Anna says…

    From the ages of 12 to 18, I attended a boarding school in India. When I was 13, a new girl came to our school, and she became one of my dorm roommates. She was from a wealthy Hindu family. This girl was socially awkward and didn’t fit in with the rest of the girls. I am ashamed to say that I, along with the other girls, bullied her in school. I was downright awful to her. 

    There were five of us girls in a single dorm room. She would talk in her sleep at night, and she kept the whole room awake at night because of her sleep talking. One night she was sleep talking in different voices. I realized evil spirits were speaking through her, so I started rebuking them and commanding them to leave in the name of Jesus.

    Rebuking demons was normal behavior for me because I had seen it all the time. I didn’t really think twice about it. If you encounter a demon, you rebuke it. It was the middle of the night, an evil voice was speaking, and I just went at it, commanding it to leave in Jesus’s name.

    I had what I thought was success. Multiple demons were expelled. But the last demon was hatred and since I had been acting in hatred toward the girl, there was no way it would obey. The demon confronted me. It said, “You can’t cast me out because you don’t love her.” That was true, I had not been nice to her at all. 

    The confrontation ended. We stayed in our beds, and she didn’t wake up. Well, maybe she did a little bit. She started whimpering. I prayed a prayer of protection and peace over the room and asked God to protect us. However, the encounter ended negatively because she was not set free.

    The other girls in the room were terrified. They will probably never forget that event as long as they lived. They could hardly look at me in the morning, and they went and told our dorm parents.

    The school authorities didn’t know how to handle the situation either. Rather than rejoicing in the attempt, although flawed, they sent me to a local pastor. I don’t think he knew what to do with me either. 


    Although it may have been normal for Anna, rebuking a demon when you are only 13 years old wasn’t normal for the school authorities, and they didn’t know how to handle it. 

    What they could have done is sat with Anna, praised her for her courage, asked her what she learned, and asked her to think about what she would do differently in the future. In addition, if the relationship was trusting enough, they could have helped her to work through her own issues of shame that led to the bullying behavior.

    What do we learn?

    That’s the story, what can we learn? I see three lessons, maybe there are more.

    1. Even children can drive out demons! Anna was barely a teenager, yet she successfully commanded demons to leave. And at least some of them obeyed. Deliverance does not depend on our age, theological education, or whether we have been ordained by the church.
    2. The church needs to know how to deal with demons. It is unfortunate that the adults in this story didn’t know what to do. They couldn’t minister effectively to Anna, nor could they help the girl who was demonically oppressed, nor were they able to assist Anna’s roommates to process their experience.
    3. If we are not living according to the principles of the kingdom of God, we lose access to the power of God. Anna didn’t love this girl and so she couldn’t drive out the spirit of hatred. Perhaps the same kind of thing was going on when the seven sons of Sceva couldn’t deliver a heavily oppressed man (Acts 19:11-16). Let’s live as a member of the kingdom of God ought to live!

    Post your comments at the very bottom of the page if you have any thoughts on this story.

    Photo by Ivan Oboleninov from Pexels

  • An Unusual Deliverance

    An Unusual Deliverance

    For my current writing project, I have had the privilege of interviewing a diverse group of godly people from around the world. For the next few issues of the Listening to God Newsletter, I plan to share some stories from these interviews. 

    But first a word of background. The book in progress is tentatively called Exorcism for Ordinary People: A Biblical and Practical Guide to Deliverance for the Evangelical Church. I would not have attempted such a daunting project without the firm belief that this is what God was telling me to do. Just as demons were prevalent in Jesus’s ministry, demons are present today. We as the church need to learn how to deal with them if we are to be effective in ministry to the hurting people around us.

    So, here is the story. The contributor is Andrew Mitchell. At the time, he was involved in a volunteer prison ministry. A few words about Drew appear at the end of the story. 

    Drew says…

    There is no formula

    I got pretty close to a group of prisoners. The Lord’s power and presence were there and, by God’s grace alone, they had great respect for me. When I walked in, I had their ear. Again, it wasn’t me, it was God that did that. One evening as I was talking to some of the inmates, from a cell maybe 20 feet from us, came the most god-awful sound that you could imagine. It was terrible. It was not of this world. The whole jail just got quiet for a minute. The noise stopped everybody in their tracks. What should I do? I had no more clue than the man on the moon what to do. Then a couple of the inmates said, “Pastor Drew, you need to go take care of that.” Like, yeah. Right.

    But my feet just started to walk over there. And it was like, Yeah, I do need to take care of it. I do need to because I’m supposed to. I’m here. It wasn’t that I wanted to or had a clue what I was supposed to do. 

    The guy was still making guttural sounds. I walked over and I didn’t know what I was gonna do. Was I gonna say “In the name of Jesus be gone?” But none of that even came close. 

    There are some rules when you’re in a prison. You don’t put your hands in the bars because then an inmate can grab you and pull you. You just stay this side of the bars. Well, at that point, it seemed like rules didn’t matter. I just felt a strong urge to touch him. I reached around and grabbed him behind his neck and started speaking. I don’t remember my exact words, but I know “peace” was one of them. It was very short. It was not hardly even a prayer. I said, “God’s peace and rest. God’s peace and rest be yours.”

    Not a whole lot more. I may have said one or two other things because it’s one of those things that’s hard to remember when you come away. You know? What did I say? What did I do? But, anyways, I did that, and he just went limp. Still standing, he looked at me and said, “I’m tired. I think I need to rest.” And he went down and laid on his bed. He didn’t confess Jesus. He didn’t say anything that we might want him to say in a typical deliverance encounter. But he was obviously freed of something powerful.

    About Andrew Mitchell

    Drew Mitchell is a fish health specialist. He worked for the US Department of Agriculture and the University of Arkansas Department of Fisheries and in the process became quite well known for his expertise in fish health. Anything that can affect the health of the fish was his area of expertise. He worked with the catfish, baitfish, and sport fish Industries in the southern USA. He is the author or co-author of over 100 research papers.

    But more important to him than his credentials in the sport fishing world is the fact that he has experienced Jesus. He says, “I cannot not believe because I’ve experienced his presence in a way that I cannot deny.”

    Well, that’s the story. What’s the lesson?

    I am sure that pronouncing the blessing, “God’s peace and rest be yours” is not given as deliverance formula found in any book on deliverance. But that’s just the point. Delivering someone from a demon is not about following a formula.

    That’s my lesson, what’s yours? Type your comments below.

  • Accident Warnings

    Accident Warnings

    Hugh Knowlton, a participant in a recent Listening to God cohort, shares two dramatic warnings he received from God.

    When I was 21, I had recently taken a Bible class which taught me that the Bible is the Word of God and can be trusted. I had met the Lord when I was around 7 or 8 but my parents where not church goers, and I had no Bible teaching in the years in between.

    Long Island Expressway Accident Averted

    One summer day, three of my believer friends and I drove to Jones Beach on Long Island, New York to have a day of fun at the ocean beach. I remember driving my 1967 Chevy Nova station wagon which my parents had given me.

    Photo taken from Over-Drive Magazine

    On the drive home on the Long Island Expressway, I suddenly had a video clip run in my mind. In my mind’s eye I saw myself driving over a hill in the road only to see stopped vehicles in front of me and then driving on the grassy shoulder on the left to avoid hitting the stopped cars. I remember being a bit puzzled by this but continued driving.

    Not more than one minute passed and guess what? I came over a hill in the road and suddenly saw that all the cars in front of me had stopped. I immediately swerved the car to the left and drove on the grassy shoulder. There was no way I could have braked and stopped the car before hitting the cars in front of me. That vision I received kind of programmed me to spontaneously react in the only way I did to avoid a collision.

    Crushed Toyota Corona

    In August of 1974, I was driving from Ohio to Connecticut (about an 11-hour drive). I had just taken a Bible class about the nine manifestations of the Spirit (1 Corinthians 12:8-10). A lot of the class was about receiving revelation from God. I had someone with me on this trip whom I did not know well. She also took the class and needed a ride east. I drove several hours until I needed a break and then Joan took over driving. I was resting with my seat inclined and fell asleep.

    After a while, I had a dream. I saw my 1974 Toyota Corona station wagon roll over several times. I woke up startled. I decided it was a bad dream and chose to ignore it. After falling back to sleep the same dream came again. Immediately the station wagon we were in violently rolled over several times on the left side of the road. I woke up in a cloud of dust with both of us, fortunately, alive and relatively unhurt. My wagon was totaled and looked like a shoe box crushed sideways.

    Apparently, Joan was not an experienced driver and drifted onto the left shoulder and then overreacted to bring the car back onto the highway causing the car to flip.

    Many people stopped and picked up our clothes. My three-ring binder with class syllabus and notes were blowing down Highway US80. Kind people picked up every page and to my amazement I was able to put it all back together not losing a single page!

    The cool part of this story is that God showed my mother that something happened to me and I was in need. When Joan and I finally got to a hotel after going to a hospital to get checked out, I called my mom, and she immediately asked where I was. She was all ready to get in her car and drive to pick us up. My mom was not a believer, but that didn’t stop God from communicating with her. I guess that’s why he’s God!

    Thank you, Hugh. Let’s learn to pay attention to God’s warnings!

    Post photo from Pinterest

    Maroon Chevy Nova photo taken from Over-Drive Magazine

    Toyota Corona photo taken from Mecum Auctions

  • Benji Hears From God

    Benji Hears From God

    People sometimes ask about teaching kids how to hear God’s voice. Grace K, a participant in one of the Listening to God cohorts, shared the following story.

    Benji hears from God

    One of my main goals in taking the Listening to God class was to be better equipped to teach my three sons. Even though I had grown up always believing that God both hears me and shows me things, I wanted to make sure I had as much help as possible for passing this truth down to my boys. What if their listening style is different? I wondered. The group dynamic of the class has been so helpful in expanding my view of the many ways to “listen” to God.

    During my second week of class, I posed this question to the group, “Do you see any correlation between the various ways God speaks to us in relation to our own personal love languages, or personalities?” For example, does God have more to say to someone who naturally receives love as “words of affirmation” and perhaps less to say but more to show physically to someone whose personality is practical and pragmatic? (The love languages and personality types are not part of scripture, but it does seem God uses such a variety of ways to communication with us and that there could be some common themes.)

    Later that day, I got an answer to my question.

    My second son, Benji, is an excellent 6th grade student. He is always thoughtfully on time and prepared. He often reminds me to get my shoes on and take him and his little brother to school (even though I consider myself quite punctual!) This day, upon unpacking his backpack in class, he realized a whole stack of very important papers was missing from his binder. He later told me, “Mom I was so stressed for a second, but then I took a deep breath and asked God for help. I asked God where my papers were.” 

    We have always explained to him that God is a GREAT father and just like his own dad—if you ask him where something is—he will be glad to tell you! Benji said, “I got an immediate peaceful feeling and then the thought locker popped into my head.” Sure enough, he went back to check his locker later in the day and the papers had fallen behind some other stuff out of sight.

    I was so excited to find out how he knew he heard from God, wondering if it was like my own experiences. “Did you SEE a mental picture of the papers in the locker? Did you HEAR the word ‘locker’ or see the word like SUBTITLES?!” He looked at me sort of funny and paused.

    “Mom…” He said, in that way that 12-year-olds say “Mom”, “I just…knew. And since I had just prayed about it and had peace. I knew it was from God.”

    I was beaming, and so thankful the Lord had answered him so simply and so completely regarding something he really cared about. 

    In retrospect, the other funny part of this story was knowing that if my first or third son had lost their papers, they would not have cared two bits! So, the answer to my question was a definite YES! The Lord knows the hairs on our head and cares deeply and personally about the issues of our heart. He also knows the best way to communicate with us in a personal way.

    Thank you, Grace!

    Student photo by Gemini

    Locker photo by Joshua Hoehne on Unsplash

  • The Broken Washing Machine

    The Broken Washing Machine

    Our washing machine went on the blink right before a nine-day local holiday. The machine was showing a “door close” error and refused to wash our clothes. I called a technician in who tested the door close switch and, finding it not to be the problem, told me that the main circuit board needed replacing. I then contacted the service center, and they very politely told me that they couldn’t do anything until after the holiday because all their technicians were going to be off duty.

    After the holiday, the service center called me and told me that they would order a replacement circuit board and door switch. Once those came in, the service center would send the technician with the parts. Since the machine was out of warranty, I would have to pay for any parts the technician needed plus the service fee. The cost of the circuit board was about ¼ the price of the original washing machine purchase price.

    Well, it took ages for the parts to come in. My wife was washing her clothes by hand, and I was wearing my shirts and pants for as long as I could. (No questions please.) On the two-week mark, one Saturday morning, my wife asked me to take our dirty sheets and towels to a friend’s house who had a washing machine.

    That morning in my devotions I had felt the Lord’s prompting to try to repair the machine myself. I even got a couple of ideas as to how to go about it. After delivering the suitcase full of dirty clothes, I got to work. Since I had seen how the technician took the machine apart and tested the door switch, I could repeat the process without any difficulty. I found that the door switch cable and connector were corroded—something the technician had missed. A bit of cleaning and soldering resulted in a working washing machine. The whole job took about 1.5 hours. I wish I would have prayed about it two weeks earlier. I immediately called the service center to cancel the repair ticket. That evening a technician phoned to say he had the part and could he come now. I happily told him that I repaired it myself and he didn’t need to come.

    Some lessons

    The Lord is deeply involved in our lives! I am sure much of the time he is standing there wondering why we don’t turn to him for help sooner. Not only is he involved, but he is also so willing to talk to us. If the Lord ever gets frustrated, it is probably because we just don’t listen to him. And when we do, we frequently dismiss what we hear.

    I wish I could say that I always listen, but that would not be true. I could write a book of stories about how the Lord prompted me to do something and I didn’t do it, and the negative fallout that occurred. But that wouldn’t make for edifying reading! Perhaps if I slowed down a little bit, I would hear the Lord a bit more.

    Washing Machine Photo Credit

  • Dissonance

    Dissonance

    My friend Jonathan writes…

    I was visiting a house church in Michigan with some friends. We had just received news that we did not get the five-year visa for South Asia that we were hoping for. Instead, we only got a one-year visa. This was difficult news, but we were trusting God that he would make the most out of it.

    This matter was on my mind as the time of time of worship started. We, the gathered body of believers, were crowded around the piano in the living room that morning. The worship time was a good time of connecting with Jesus. During the last song, the worship leader hit the wrong note on the piano.

    My immediate thought was, “Oh, I like that sour note.” I like classical music and one of my favorite composers uses a lot of dissonance. He crafts pieces that combine dissonant notes on top of each other, and but then uses those notes to create a harmony that crescendos into something incredibly beautiful. When you listen to his work for long enough you start to understand how the dissonant notes form pieces of the whole, and how they become part of the beauty that later emerges.

    Immediately after I thought, “Oh, I like that sour note,” I heard the Lord say, “I did that just for you.” I felt God’s presence and joy. He is teaching me to see how he works even the disappointments together into something beautiful.

    I find it intriguing to think that even the worship leader—who may have felt embarrassed for hitting the wrong note—was being used by God through what felt like a mistake. Afterward, I told her about what had happened, and she was encouraged because just earlier that day she had been explaining to her son what dissonance and then demonstrating it for him on the piano. God prepared each of us to hear from him an interesting way.

    Reflection

    Does it feel like something has gone wrong in your life? Do you feel dissonance between the way things are and the way you think things should be? If so, why don’t you stop and have a conversation with the Lord about this? Could it be that what feels like a mistake is actually part of the harmony that God is composing in your life?

    Reader Response

    I just finished reading What if Listening to God Was Easy? I loved the stories! They both helped me understand the points that were being illustrated, and they made the book so much easier read. But I also found myself needing to pause after every chapter to go spend time in prayer and try to listen to God. Thank you! The book has been a real blessing. —Aaron

    Piano photo by Jordan Whitfield on Unsplash. Singing group photo by cottonbro studio from Pexels.

  • Listening During Times of Stress

    Listening During Times of Stress

    My friend Aaron shared a couple of stories for this post. By way of background, Aaron used to work in a developing nation.

    Approaching Burnout

    It had been a tough few months. I was on the verge of burnout and desperately needed a break to recharge. My family was looking forward to some vacation time. We packed our bags and headed to the airport for our flight. When we got there, our flight wasn’t listed anywhere. As we approached the airline, we were told that the flight was rescheduled for tomorrow. Since there weren’t enough passengers on the Friday flight, they combined two flights together for Saturday. There were no other flights that day to our destination.

    My body ached at the thought of waiting another day before our needed rest. The reschedule meant we would have to wake the young kids up at 3am the next day. We complained to a teammate who told us her friend Yolanda must be on the same flight as us since her flight was moved to tomorrow as well. 

    In my frustration, I asked God, “Why is this happening? Why is it so hard to get some rest?” In the stillness, I heard God tell me, “There is a reason, you just don’t know it yet.”

    The next day, we arrived at the airport once again, half awake and feeling defeated. As we approached the counter, Yolanda approached us. She needed our help. The airport security wouldn’t let her on the flight since she didn’t have a visa for the destination. Yolanda didn’t need a visa for her destination since she was entitled to a visa on arrival. The real issue was that the security official wanted a bribe, and he thought Yolanda, a young woman in her twenties traveling alone, would be an easy target. Yolanda didn’t have the money to pay. 

    As soon as the security officer saw Yolanda talking with me (a foreigner), he immediately apologized to us. Yolanda walked beside my family all the way onto the flight without any further hassle. In the end, my inconvenience led to a timely encounter which was the lifeline of someone else’s day.

    Shattered Hopes

    My friends and I run a social enterprise that employs youth in poverty in a volatile country with an ongoing war. After months of hard work, our business was starting to pick up. The youth we employed were beginning to have hopes and dreams about their future. Then one day, it all came crashing down. The government announced a new conscription campaign that targeted youth.

    Group of army recruits

    Our employees’ dreams shattered, hope dissipated, fear ran high. I went before God in silence, not knowing what words to even say. In the stillness, I heard God telling me to pause the entire operation for one month. I was to use the time to care for our young employees. I was to simply be there for them to lean on. This was scary because our company only had one month of cash flow. Taking a whole month to care for the youth would mean risking the whole operation.

    For the remainder of the month, we had deeper conversations with each employee than we ever had before. While they struggled to talk with their parents about the situation, they openly shared their pain with us. We carefully guided them to think through their options. In the end, the youth who remained with us developed a deeper sense of family commitment that went far beyond ordinary working relationships. The business quickly recovered under the hands of these committed youth. 


    Thank you, Aaron! What a great reminder to pause and ask the Lord what do during times of stress.

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  • Hearing God and Hamburger Helper

    Hearing God and Hamburger Helper

    Recently, my mind has been drawn to an email from my friend EM. With EM’s permission, I’m including the main points of his email and my reactions below them. His email is in regular text and my responses are in italics.

    EM friend wrote…

    I’ve been seeing an increase in listening prayer in our community in the USA and I have been thinking about how to help people grow in this practice while avoiding the pitfalls of inherent in trying to hear God’s voice.

    A couple of recent examples have made me thoughtful:

    • A young man was a candidate for a church office, and he felt like he had clearly heard from God that he would be chosen. He wasn’t. This has been an incredibly difficult journey for him emotionally.
    • Another man thought he heard from God that he and his wife should buy a specific house. Someone else from his church was already in the process of buying it, but the man was able to step in and take it away from the other family. A year after they bought it, they ended up moving away.
    Picture of house with a "sold" sign in front.

    Here is my attempt to create some principles. I’m curious to know if these resonate with you or if you would go a different direction.

    1. Instead of “God told me…” people should learn to say things like, “It felt like God told me” or, “I sensed that…” Using language like this opens the door to others’ input and to the possibility that they didn’t hear correctly.

    Neil: Absolutely. I almost never say “God told me…” until after the fact. In my course I mention what I call “The myth of certainty.” We are almost never 100% sure we are hearing God correctly until after the fact. This ought to encourage a deep sense of humility in our journey of listening.

    1. Recognize that hearing from God often comes through our senses and that not every detail we perceive may be accurate. One teacher said that we often do hear from God, but we tend to add Hamburger Helper* to fill out what we heard with more specific details from our own imagination.

    Neil: I fully agree with what you have written.

    Hamburger Helper product photo

    * For those not from North America, Hamburger Helper is a packaged food product consisting of dried pasta with powdered seasonings. The consumer combines the contents of the box (our own imagination) with browned ground beef (God’s revelation) to make a one-dish meal.

    1. Look for confirmations. Godly, mature people affirming what you heard can function as confirmation. Situations can also be confirmation. For example, if you think you heard that someone has back pain and you should pray for them, if you ask them and they confirm their pain, that is likely a sign that you heard correctly. If they say that they actually have pain in their foot, then perhaps you had the right sense, but not all of the details. And if neither, perhaps you just didn’t hear correctly. Often confirmations come when we look backwards. My Amish grandfather heard an audible voice one Sunday afternoon telling him to go study Scripture because he would be called to the ministry someday. Years later, he was in an ordination by lot. I don’t think he told people the story until after his ordination, but it was incredibly faith strengthening for him and for many others through the years and it helped prepare him for ministry!

    Neil: Amen. What an encouraging story!

    1. Measure everything by Jesus and the Word of God. If it’s not aligned with Scripture, we should question what we heard.

    Neil: Amen!

    1. Godliness opens the door for us to hear better. As we move into holiness, our hearts are less cluttered and more able to hear other things God speaks to us.

    Neil: Amen and amen!

    1. Have people who can speak into your life. If you sense that God is calling you to do something radical, get input from godly, mature people. We shouldn’t treat people as the ultimate decision maker, but I am very slow to go in a new direction if godly people who know me well don’t affirm that what I am sensing is from God. Part of this is recognizing the Holy Spirit in other people and that God often speaks to us through other people.

    Neil: Amen! In addition, life-changing decisions should be given sufficient time. When I was praying about starting a business, I asked a number of people to pray with me about this. When things got tough, I looked back and said to myself, “It wasn’t just me who asked the Lord about this. Ten others did too, and they got the same answer.”

    1. Recognize that God has spoken clearly through Scripture. Perhaps 95% (or 99%) of the guidance we need to follow Jesus and live a fruitful life is found in Scripture. Prioritize a Scripture-saturated, prayerful life, walking in the fruit of the Spirit. As you do, then you will be in a far better place to hear from God. I think part of our job as teachers is to remind people that 95% of what we need God clearly reveals through Scripture and 5% comes from the mystical/experiential realm (or 80/20 if you want to be generous) and not the inverse.

    Neil: The only point where I would disagree a bit is in the ratios. Yes, God has given us the Scripture, and we treasure it, learn from it, use it to keep us in boundaries, and hear God’s voice through it. But I also treasure a walk with the Holy Spirit where I turn to him for help, comfort, and direction many times throughout the day. During those times of turning to him, I often hear his voice within my heart.

    1. Treasure the greatest gifts: The Holy Spirit at work in our lives, people brought from darkness to light, being sons and daughters of God, hearts transformed into the heart of Jesus, the fruit of the Spirit evidenced in the lives of believers. As we treasure these gifts, we are less likely to misuse or misunderstand the other gifts that God gives such as physical health, material blessings, healings, or words of knowledge.

    Neil. Amen! Thanks, EM, for your great comments.

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    House photo by Trista from Pixabay

    Hamburger Helper image from Walmart. I don’t think they will mind the free advertising.

    Classic Hamburger Helper product photo by Evan-Amos

  • A Powerful Story of Forgiveness

    A Powerful Story of Forgiveness

    I asked my friend Zahid to tell his story this month. Although Zahid is not a Christian, he had a very meaningful experience. I believe his story needs to be shared.

    Background

    I am Zahid. I’ve worked at several private organizations in South Asia for about 14 years. Recently, I worked for five and a half years at the embassy of a Middle Eastern country. There, I worked with honesty and efficiency like I did in my previous organizations. My two managers who were foreign diplomats were happy with my work because I was very knowledgeable in all aspects of the visa department.

    However, two of my South Asian colleagues envied me. They were the oldest officials in the visa center. They wanted a team where they would have all the power, and the others would simply do what they said. They felt threatened by someone as qualified as they were. So, they waited for an opportunity to achieve their goal.

    At the end of 2019, the two foreign diplomatic managers were posted to other countries. Then my supervisor transferred me to another department where the work was less important.

    COVID and Layoffs

    Then, a new operations manager, a diplomat, came to South Asia. Within a few days of his arrival, the COVID pandemic started in South Asia. After COVID, the office ran on a limited scale. A few months later, the Middle Eastern country to which our embassy belonged started laying off employees in almost all their missions around the world.

    When the layoffs began in South Asia, I wasn’t too worried because everyone liked me for my work. In addition, all my colleagues thought that I was at the top in terms of performance. When the embassy laid off even more staff, our new operations manager made a list of low-performing officials to lay off at the end of 2021. I was not one of them.

    However, my supervisor saw that one of his favorites was on the list to be laid off, so he influenced the new operations manager to lay me off instead of his favorite. My supervisor explained that I was from a rich family, and I would be able to survive financially without a job after the pandemic.

    Since the operations manager was new, he knew very little about me. Finally, what I did not expect happened. I was laid off. The truth is, I was not from a rich family, I was from a poor family. My operations manager later found out everything about me, about my family and my office performance, but by then it was too late. Much later, he said to me, “I was not well informed about you. If there was an opportunity to take on new people, I would definitely take you.” After COVID, I started having problems finding a job. I was unemployed for almost a year and a half. I suffered a lot both mentally and financially.

    Feelings of Intense Hatred

    When I learned that they excluded me because of jealousy and false accusations, I felt intense hatred towards those two colleagues. I constantly hated them in my heart. I wished them harm, and I cursed them. I became mentally disturbed and went into depression because of the trouble I was facing. I could not accept that my hard work could be rewarded so badly. My self-confidence deteriorated. After a few months, I recovered a little, but I could not forget the injustice done to me. I was not finding mental relief.

    At the end of 2022, due to my wife’s job as a teacher in a college, I left the capital and moved to a small town. There I met Neil. One day I shared this incident with him. He told me to forgive both of my former colleagues. I was totally surprised at this. I should forgive those who did wrong?

    He explained the importance and the benefits of forgiveness. After some discussion, I agreed with Neil, but I didn’t want to forgive them just then. I said, “I’ll do it after my early morning prayers when my mind is clear.” Two days later, after my morning prayers, with a cool head and meditative heart, I told the Creator that I have forgiven the wrongdoings of both of my former colleagues. I didn’t stop there. I forgave everyone who hurt me, everyone who spoke harsh words, and everyone who wounded me. I also told the Creator that I no longer hold any grudge against anyone in the world, nor do I curse anyone. I have forgiven everyone.

    How I Felt Afterward

    Since this incident, I felt a strange mental relief. I started feeling very light and my love for everyone increased. I no longer have any anger towards the two people who did the most harm to me in my life. It was like suffering from a severe headache all night and then feeling so good in the morning when the headache is gone. Now I feel so good. Previously, I had not been able to understand the great importance of forgiveness. Thank you, Mr. Neil.

    And thank you, Zahid!

    Why don’t you take a moment to pray for God’s blessings on Zahid? You could also ask the Lord if there is anyone in your life whom you need to forgive.

  • I Want to Make Music Again

    I Want to Make Music Again

    A couple of months ago, one of my readers shared a post by the musician Dominic Balli with me. I tracked Dominic down and asked permission to share his post with my readers. He kindly agreed. But first, a little about Dominic, abbreviated from his church’s website.

    Dominic grew up in church knowing about Jesus but never knew Him personally. It wasn’t until the age of 16 that he finally surrendered his life and chose to follow wholeheartedly after God. Growing up with a mother who was a professional musician and songwriter, it seemed natural for Dominic to pick up the guitar. There was only one problem: he was legitimately tone-deaf. Though his condition left his guitar and voice regularly out of tune, his broken physiology didn’t stop him from tirelessly pursuing music. When he met Jesus at 16 and was filled with the Holy Spirit, his tone deafness immediately vanished, which changed the course of his life.

    Knowing where the healing came from, Dominic began writing songs with the intention of sharing the good news of Jesus with the world and, soon after, began leading worship at church. He took a position as a youth pastor and worship director at Reality Carpinteria and was soon after ordained as a pastor/elder. After his first album topped the Gospel and Reggae charts in 2008, Dominic stepped down from his staff position at Reality Carpinteria to pursue a career as a self-produced, full-time independent recording artist. In 2016, he joined the team at Reality Ventura as the Interim Pastor for Preaching and Vision, then in 2021 Dominic moved into a part-time role as Pastor for Worship Life.

    Now here is his post…

    At the beginning of the year, my wife and I sat down and asked God how he wanted me to spend my time when I wasn’t working at church. After we asked the question, we listened (PS, if you don’t listen in prayer, you should.). As we sat in a silence, a conversation started forming in my mind…

    Me: What do you want me to do?
    God: What do YOU want to do?
    Me: Um, I want to make music again.
    God: Oh, I love it when you make music.
    Me: You do?
    God: So much.
    Me: I love it too.
    God: I know, I made you like that. Son, I’ve put it into the heart of man to enjoy the work of his labor. That’s what I want you to do? Enjoy.
    Me: Enjoy?
    God: Yea, enjoy making music.
    Me: But what about money?
    God: I’ll take care of the money. You go enjoy.
    Me: Ok, but you’re gonna have to tell my wife.
    God: I got you. 5 seconds later… Wife: Did you hear anything?
    Me: Yea, did you?
    Wife: I saw a picture.
    Me: Of what?
    Wife: You were in the studio, working on a song, and you had the biggest smile on your face. And above your head there was a huge word written: ENJOY.
    Me:🤯
    God:😉

    So after five of years of hardly doing anything with my music, this year I’ve been enjoying. For so many years, I was so focused on building that I forgot to enjoy. So here’s to enjoying again. Enjoying the process. Enjoying the mess and magic. Enjoying the music. These photos (above) are from a small outreach concert I played at in Kauai recently, but they represent something bigger—a new season of enjoying. And he made good on the money promise too. Is there work that you truly ENJOY – where you feel the pleasure of God when you do it? What is it? I’d love to know!

    You can follow Dominic on his Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/dominicballimusic

    Pause and Reflect

    Many people take time at the beginning of each year to make resolutions and resolve to do better. What if, just like Dominic did, we take some time to listen and ask God him what he wants us to do in the new year?

    Dominic Balli photos from his church’s website and from Dominic’s Facebook page.

    Child with headphones photo by Alireza Attari on Unsplash

  • The Worst Decision of My Life

    The Worst Decision of My Life

    Today we have a submission from a reader who recently immigrated from Asia to Australia. He writes…

    I want to share a story about a time when I was struggling with financial loss. After changing countries and moving to a place where having a vehicle was a huge need, I wanted to buy a vehicle. Long story short, I bought one and then felt it was the worst decision of my life.

    I blamed a family friend who I felt misguided me. I was in agony, because I had lost so much money. I expressed my pain to my family members as the money was part of the final savings we had. I felt I let my father down who died two years ago and had left a little money for us.

    Eventually, I felt the need to listen to God. So, I set a time with my mentor where we could listen to God’s voice together. As we listened, I heard God tell me that my deeper problem was fear and shame. I needed to cast aside the fear that I had. About the financial loss, I heard God remind me that he is in control. My mentor was also listening to God and heard that God will reimburse the loss one day in the future.

    After a month, I found someone who wanted to buy my vehicle, and so I sold it at a comparatively low price. Getting rid of the vehicle gave me some relief. A few months later, my wife got a new job. After two months, the company where she was working for went out of business. As a result, she received an extra compensation from the company which was almost exactly equivalent to the net loss I faced selling the vehicle.

    Just recently, while preparing my income tax return, I found that I am eligible to get a decent amount of money back because my employers deducted more money for income tax than they should have done. The total amount due as a reimbursement is the same amount as the net loss from selling the vehicle.

    I am feeling so much better because God is healing my pain. One lesson I am learning is that God is in control, and He cares for me. He might not fix my problems right away as I so often want Him to. But He has a plan for me and that plan is good. I may feel that I have messed up, but He is there to rescue me. I want to trust Him more.

    Thanks so much to our reader for sharing this story!

    Vehicle photo by Koushik Chowdavarapu on Unsplash

    Currency photo by Melissa Walker Horn on Unsplash

  • What’s this blog all about again?

    What’s this blog all about again?

    This blog is about walking with Jesus. This means learning to pay attention to the promptings of the Holy Spirit (John 10:3-5; 14:16-17). It means learning to do the things he commanded his disciples to do (Matthew 10:7-8; 28:20). And, of course, walking with Jesus means loving your neighbor, practicing forgiveness, and learning to share the hope we have within us. Our slogan is that discipleship is not just understanding what Jesus taught, but learning to do what Jesus did (John 14:12).

    How often do you create a new post?

    We aim for once per month.

    What kind of things do you post about?

    We post encouraging stories about people who have had encounters with God. We almost always start with a story and we try not to be too preachy.

    Why stories?

    The Bible is full of stories. Jesus used stories when he taught. We believe that people learn best through story, so we try to include stories (that is, records of real life events) as often as we can.

    Where do you get your stories from?

    We get them from a variety of sources. Sometimes someone in one of the Listening to God is Easy courses shares an interesting story and gives us permission to use it.

    Sometimes the stories come from our own life experiences. We also love publishing other people’s stories.

    Do you have an interesting story of how God spoke to you or demonstrated his presence somehow? If so, scroll down to the Contact Us link at the bottom of every page and send us a few lines. We will get back to you as soon as we can, usually within 48 hours.

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    We won’t spam you. We won’t use your stories without your permission. Although we do provide links to books and courses, we never pressure you to buy. This newsletter is free. We will never share or sell your email address.

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  • Forgiveness and Healing

    Forgiveness and Healing

    We have another great submission from one of our course participants. Laizu helped me lead a Listening to God cohort in July and August. During the session on inner healing, we talked about the importance of forgiveness. The following week, Laizu shared the story below. She kindly gave me permission to use it here. Laizu says…

    For a long time I tried to forgive someone. During my times of prayer, I spoke his name and forgave him. But when I remembered the way he betrayed me, the hurt and pain returned. I understood that I had not really forgiven him.

    Then I would try again. I spoke his name out loud and mentioned the specific sins he committed. I dismissed the “debt” he owed to me. I wrote his name on a paper and then burned it as a sign that I was no longer holding his sin against me. I prayed about this issue many times. But still, the matter would not leave my mind.

    Then one day I was reading a book where a pastor shared how a dishonest person spread lies about him. The pastor wanted to prove this person’s dishonesty, but as he prayed about it, the Lord didn’t give him permission to do so. The pastor writes:

    Some time passed. One day before I got to my office, I was praying outside the church. Then that dishonest person arrived in his car. God told me to humble myself and go to him. I immediately protested, “No, Lord. He should come to me because he is the one who created the problem.” I continued to pray, but the Lord insisted that I go quickly and humble myself.

    I went and sincerely sought his forgiveness. I said, “I am sorry for criticizing and judging you.”

    Immediately he softened and we talked for a whole hour. From that day forward, even though other pastors in the church still had problems with that man, his attacks on me ceased.

    From a translation of The Bait of Satan by John Bevere

    Laizu continues…

    In that section of the book, one line was important for me: “God told me to humble myself.”

    I prayed and received the impression that I should speak to the man who betrayed me. I phoned him and said, “The things you have done are your business. I will not judge you. I forgive you.”

    Prior to talking to him, whenever he came to mind, I would get upset. If I knew he was going to be present somewhere, I wouldn’t go to that place. But all this changed after I forgave him over the phone.

    A few days later, I had the opportunity to help someone else take a step of forgiveness.

    A woman from a different language group works as a helper in my elder son’s home.

    She felt an attack of dizziness coming on. I wanted to pray for her, but she explained that she has had dizzy spells before. When the dizziness comes she has to stay in the hospital for 10-12 days, and then after being released, she still needs help to get up and walk to the bathroom for a couple of weeks more. All told, it takes a month to recover. She expected the same thing to happen this time.

    I wanted to know the reason for the dizzy spells. She told me many events from her life. She is now separated from her husband who was a very violent man. I understood that her husband had hit her many times and that she had not forgiven him.

    I explained forgiveness to her but since my language is not her mother-tongue, she didn’t understand what I was saying. Then I used an example. I said, “Suppose you owe money to someone. The money lender comes and demands his money. When you tell him that you can’t pay, he erases your debt. That is forgiveness.”

    Then I told her to pray in her own language. I told her to tell God what your husband did, how bad you feel, and that now you have forgiven him. After she prayed, I put my hand on her and prayed for her and she was healed.

    I praise God that he helped this woman to forgive and to be healed.

    Thank you Laizu for this story! I don’t believe we always need to extend forgiveness in person to the offender. Yet, doing so at the Lord’s leading has a powerful effect in breaking the chains of anger and bitterness.

    Laizu demonstrated responsiveness to the Lord’s promptings and the power of healing prayer.

    Headache photo by David Garrison

    Church parking lot photo by Rich Howard

  • Following the Good Shepherd

    Following the Good Shepherd

    This month we have another great submission from one of our readers. Enjoy! Juli writes…

    Another Transition

    Our family has worked in Latin America since 2014, but right now we are finishing up our home assignment in Germany. At the end of our last term in Ecuador, we were open to hearing from God about our next placement.

    We practiced listening to God and invited others to listen with us concerning our future placement. As we prayed with a friend, he shared an impression of us walking alongside people in Costa Rica and asked us to bring this before the Lord.

    This listening time with our friend happened right after a challenging time of transition. We had settled back in Germany and helped our three kids to finally feel at home again. As a mother, I didn’t feel ready for a transition to yet another new country. I had a lot of questions and fears, especially around our children facing a new period of change and moving to another place.

    The Good Shepherd

    My husband and I sat before the Lord, bringing all our thoughts and fears to him, asking him to speak into the situation. As we quieted our hearts, Jesus gave me a picture in response to those feelings about Costa Rica. I saw a shepherd with three little lambs on his strong shoulders and two adult sheep walking directly behind him, step by step.

    Jesus was speaking so kindly and lovingly to my heart about my fears and reservations. My heart was touched, and tears began to fall. I could see Jesus as the Good Shepherd of our family, leading and caring for us.

    Pondering this picture, I understood that we as parents need to follow him closely. Then we can entrust our children to him for the next transition. He will carry them and bring them safely through it.

    In the following weeks we received more words of encouragement from Jesus and from others who listened for us confirming that going to Costa Rica was the next step for us to take. In a few weeks we will leave Germany, our house is becoming empty, and the reality of the transition is hitting home.

    Since this special moment with Jesus, I still experienced some times of confusion, especially when people asked about uprooting our kids again. Worries about their well-being and my responsibility for them weighed upon me. I ran to Jesus with these thoughts and each time he reminded me of the Good Shepherd picture. He asked me, Whom do you trust more?

    So I have clung to the promise of the Good Shepherd to bring us through this next transition. He will give us wisdom and love to walk with our kids through the hard moments and we can entrust them to him. His ways are good, and he provides for all we need as we follow him.

    Picture of a Quichua couple in Ecuador by Marjan Slinger-Volgers on Pinterest

    Sketch of the shepherd by Juli

  • Agents of Healing Released

    Agents of Healing Released

    Agents of Healing, was released last week. Rather than tell you all about it, let me just share a story from chapter 2 and then state my conviction.

    The Fever’s Gone!

    One day as I left our apartment to get something from a nearby shop, Jewel, one of the guards, greeted me in the deep voice of one whose cold had descended into his chest. I wondered if I should offer to pray for him. Not feeling confident, I kept walking. On the way to the shop, I set three conditions before the Lord. Lord, if he is still present when I get back, if he is alone, and if he is willing to come up to our apartment, then I will pray for him.

    I returned from the shop a few minutes later. Jewel was still on duty, and no one was talking to him. I asked if he would like me to pray for him. He agreed. I asked if he would come up to my apartment. He agreed. He called another guard to watch the gate while he came upstairs with me.

    After seating him on our couch, I explained to Jewel, a follower of a different religion, that I wanted to pray for him in Jesus’ name. Again, he agreed. I cupped my hands together and lifted them to chest height as members of his religion do when they pray. I rebuked the sickness in Jesus’ name and prayed for Jewel’s healing. Then the prayer was over, and he got up and left. I thought, Well, Lord, I am pretty sure I did what you wanted me to do. The results are in your hands. Not five minutes later, the intercom rang. I picked it up and Jewel exclaimed, “Sir, sir, the fever is gone!”

    My Conviction

    I firmly believe that we can all learn to effectively pray for healing in Jesus’ name. The key word here is learn. Praying for healing, just like almost everything else requires learning. Agents of Healing is where I have put down my learning in written form.

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  • An Invitation to Believe

    An Invitation to Believe

    A reader shared this touching story.

    Infertility

    The Lord began to speak to me about children even before I accepted his call to serve him. After we got married, however, we faced the problem of infertility. Many wounds formed in our hearts because of this, but the Lord was speaking to me to remain faithful and that he would work. In the last months of 2023, he spoke to us more and more often that he was preparing our hearts to have children.

    God’s Voice

    In the Listening to God’s Voice course (January-February 2024), I did an exercise in which I was asked to remember a beautiful memory I had from the past week. Then, I pictured Jesus there in the memory and asked him a few questions.

    I chose a memory of when my husband and I went to the park with our colleagues’ little boy. Asking Jesus those questions, I felt that Jesus was telling me that within a short time we will have our own child.

    The last thing Jesus told me during that listening exercise was, “I will fulfill the promise I made to you in Genesis 11:14.” I went to reread that passage because I couldn’t remember what it said. As I read it, I realized that it was the verse through which the Lord had spoken to me two months earlier that He would give us a child before my husband turned 30. The verse says:

    When Shelah had lived 30 years, he became the father of Eber.

    It was only a year and a few days away from my husband’s 30th birthday. Although it required a lot of faith, I chose to share what I received with the other course participants. As I write this (June 2024), I’m now 14 weeks pregnant and expecting my baby to come in November!

    A Step of Faith

    In mid-March I had a dream. In that dream I knew it was March and I felt sick. In the dream, I went to the doctor to find out the cause and learned that I was pregnant. In the morning, I shared the dream with my husband. Again, sharing this with my husband was a step taken in faith because the chances of becoming pregnant that month were quite small. But still, at the end of the month I was holding a positive pregnancy test.

    Another dream

    Just days after testing positive, my non-believing sister wrote to tell me that she dreamed I was pregnant. Although I didn’t tell her then that her dream accurately portrayed what was happening to me, I felt the Lord confirming to me once again that he speaks in wonderful and different ways, and that we must listen and take steps by faith.

    If you have read our story, please pray that the Lord will protect this pregnancy and help us trust Him through any waves of difficulty.

    Editor’s Update: our reader gave birth to a healthy baby girl in November 2024

    Slippers photo by Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

    Family photo by Dmitriy Ganin

  • Desire and the Kingdom of God

    Desire and the Kingdom of God

    Several days ago, I spent some time praying about what to write in this post. That night, just as I was laying my head on my pillow, several Bible passages came to mind. I jotted them down before I went to sleep. Here they are with some thoughts about each one.

    The Kingdom of God and Desire

    Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened. (Matthew 7:7-8)

    You don’t ask for something unless you want it. You don’t really seek unless you are hoping to find what you are looking for. Behind these actions—asking, seeking, knocking—is desire. Desire is important in the Kingdom of God.

    Desire and Prayer

    Through the prophet Jeremiah, the Lord said to the people of Judah:

    Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. (Jeremiah 29:12-13)

    Seeking the Lord with all your heart requires strong desire. Desire is important in the Kingdom of God.

    Weak Desires, Competing Desires

    Many times, however, we find our desire for spiritual things alarmingly weak. We might even wonder how strongly we ought to desire such things. C. S. Lewis clarifies the matter:

    “It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
    ― C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory, and Other Addresses,New York, Macmillan, 1949, p. 2.

    Desire and Spiritual Gifts

    When it came to spiritual gifts, the idea I learned at the various churches I attended growing up was that one shouldn’t desire too much. If you have a particular spiritual gift, then great. If you don’t have that gift, then don’t get too bothered about it. After all, you don’t want to fall into error by wanting something that God hasn’t given.

    I wonder if the Apostle Paul saw things differently.

    Follow the way of love and eagerly desire gifts of the Spirit, especially prophecy. (1 Corinthians 14:1)

    Yes, in the context, Paul is prioritizing edifying the church over edifying oneself. But still the principle remains: we can and should desire spiritual gifts.

    Desire and Hearing God’s Voice

    Learning to hear God’s voice also requires a certain amount of desire. You are probably going to make some mistakes along the way. You may get frustrated and feel like giving up. Desire to be in communion with Jesus will help you continue your journey.

    Reflection

    So, how strong is your desire? Do you desire to hear Jesus’ voice enough to spend some time learning to recognize how he speaks? Is developing sensitivity to the Holy Spirit a skill that warrants daily practice?

    Let me know what you think.

    Photo by charlesdeluvio on Unsplash

  • Don’t Give Up

    Don’t Give Up

    Sometimes the Lord’s word to a person individually has an application to a broader group of people. In this post, I share some of the words the Lord has given me over the past several weeks.

    Background

    I was starting a computer training program in Asia. The journey has been a little bumpier than I anticipated. We started advertising in early February but didn’t get any students.

    Mid-February

    Me: Lord, do you have anything to say to me to me about my computer business?

    Jesus: You are moving forward, don’t be discouraged. Don’t expect instant results. I am developing you.

    A dream

    A couple of days later I had a dream. In the dream I was applying for a job and I was sure that I would get it. But I was told that I would have to wait to hear the results of my interview.

    Message of the dream: I need to wait. Now is not the time to give up and try something else.

    A few days later

    Me: What do you have to say about the computer business?

    Jesus: I want you to persevere. You haven’t by any means exhausted all the possibilities. Don’t give up too soon.

    Me: But what about the sunk cost fallacy?

    The sunk cost fallacy is when “a person is reluctant to abandon a strategy or course of action because they have invested heavily in it, even when it is clear that abandonment would be more beneficial.” Oxford Dictionary.

    Jesus: At that point I will speak to you. Now is not the time to change track and try something else.

    Third week of February

    Me: (We still don’t have any students.) Anything you have to say to me this morning?

    Jesus: Patiently persevere. Don’t focus on the results. Focus on what I have called you to.

    February 28

    Two people drop into the office and express interest in our advanced computer course. This is the first real interest we have found.

    February 29

    I was praying with my mentor. I didn’t have a specific question to ask, so we both quieted our hearts and asked the Lord what he had to say. This is what the Lord said to me:

    Neil, keep interceding. Your prayers have effect, but they are like planted seeds. You don’t see the results immediately; it takes time for the fruit to come. Often, the fruit comes from your prayers, but you forget that you prayed and so you don’t make the connection.

    March

    We finally got enough people and we started our first course on March 7.

    Lessons

    Here are my lessons from the past few weeks:

    • A big part of walking with Jesus is persevering. In much of life, we give up way too soon.
    • I am a person who likes to see quick results. If I don’t see the results I hope for, I am tempted to move on to something else. The Lord is slowing me down and telling me to keep at it for a while.
    • Prayers are like seeds. The fruit often comes much later.

    Do you have any other lessons from this series of events? If so, please post them in the comments below.

    Snail photo by Zdeněk Macháček on Unsplash

    Hourglass photo by Nathan Dumlao on Unsplash

    Plant photo by Francesco Gallarotti on Unsplash

  • Please Don’t Leave Me

    Please Don’t Leave Me

    In this post, one of our readers shares her story of abandonment and healing.

    Childhood Trauma

    I was just four years old when my dad went abroad to work for the first time. After he left, I didn’t see him again for two years. I didn’t understand then what harm his absence would bring into my life. When he returned, I kept telling him to never leave me again.

    Later, when I was thirteen, I went to spend the summer holiday with my aunt. While there I received a call from my dad. He was at the border, just about to go abroad again to work. He didn’t tell me in advance because he knew I would be upset.

    When I got the call, I was shocked and angry. I didn’t even get the chance to see him before he left. Not knowing how to deal with I all the feelings I had, I placed the guilt on myself. I told myself that he left because he needed more money to raise me. From that point on, I blamed myself when others behaved badly toward me. I told myself that I was not enough, not good enough, not strong enough.

    Adult Impact

    Six years later, when I met my future husband, I did the same thing. I didn’t have the courage to tell him when something was wrong. I just kept telling myself that the problem was with me and that is why I feel hurt when he doesn’t give me time or attention, or when he does things that I don’t like. I was afraid that he would abandon me like my father did. I did whatever I could to make sure he would not leave.

    Four months before our wedding, we met with an older couple for pre-marriage counseling. They discovered that I had all these fears. This couple helped me go back to my childhood where everything started. They asked me if I would like to try praying with them in a different way.

    Jesus Brings Healing

    As we prayed, they asked questions like:

    • Jesus, why does her dad act like that?
    • Jesus, where were you in that moment when she received the call?
    • Jesus, what were you doing?
    • Jesus, what do you want her to learn from this?

    I began to picture Jesus in that room. I realized that I wasn’t alone, that I wasn’t abandoned, that it wasn’t my fault that my dad left to go abroad. I heard Jesus say that he is with me, and he always will be. I heard him say that I am loved and enough.

    That was the first prayer for inner healing that I experienced. It didn’t resolve everything in a single moment, but it was an important starting point. My fiancé and I realized what caused the trauma, why I reacted in negative ways sometimes, and why I don’t have the courage to set boundaries.

    Working on the healing of my inner child was the thing that changed our relationship and set the foundation for a happy and blessed marriage today.

    Lonely child photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

    Happily married photo by Ryan Franco on Unsplash

  • Dealing With Doubts and Fears

    Dealing With Doubts and Fears

    I was in a minivan with colleagues, traveling to a conference. On the way, I got a call from my lawyer about my work permit application. He said that my application had been forwarded to the authorities concerned and they would decide whether to grant it in their bimonthly meeting that was coming up in a few minutes.  Normally, an application of this type would be routine, but my file had some complications, and the lawyer told me that there was a chance that the authorities would raise an objection.

    After the call, I messaged some friends and asked them to pray. I prayed as well. After about 15 minutes, I received an impression from the Lord that I should stop praying about this. Not only should I stop praying, but the Lord would be displeased if I kept praying about this matter.

    I messaged the same friends and told them, “I believe the Lord is saying we’ll get it, and I don’t need to pray anymore.” Then for the next four days I was assailed by fears. My fears said to me: You won’t get the work permit and your credibility will go down in the eyes of your friends when they hear about it.

    Four days later, I received the news that my application had been granted, and I had received my work permit. What was going on? Why did I have all the fears?

    Praying for a Friend

    Later the same month, a friend messaged me to say that his child had some health concerns and that they were doing some tests to see if their child had cancer. The following day I was fasting and praying about some matters on my heart, and I prayed for my friend’s child as well. As I prayed, a conviction rose up within me that their child did not have cancer.

    At the end of my prayer time, I texted me friend to say, “I believe the Lord is saying that it is not cancer.” That evening, I was again assailed by fears: Neil, this time you’ve gone too far. You can really hurt people if you make mistakes in this sort of thing.

    The next morning, I saw my friend’s response, thanking me for the comfort but telling me that the results wouldn’t be available for two weeks. Two weeks later they received the news: the cancer test had come back negative. I had indeed heard the Lord correctly.

    Analyzing My Fears

    What can we learn from these two stories? Why did I have such fears even after I heard the Lord correctly? Here are a couple of observations.

    Observation 1

    God speaks as we pray about the matters on our hearts. In these events, God spoke to me as I prayed. I wasn’t asking God to speak to me, I was simply interceding for matters that were on my heart. As I prayed, God spoke.

    We see biblical precedent in this in Acts 13. The gathered body of believers were praying. I don’t think they were asking God to speak to them, they were simply worshiping and praying. As they spent time with him in prayer, God shared what was on his heart, “Set apart for me Barnabas and Saul for the work to which I have called them.” (Acts 13:2) As we pray, either individually or corporately, we should be open to the possibility that God might have something to say to us.

    Observation 2

    When God speaks, we often face spiritual opposition in the form of doubts and fears. Satan, our enemy, does not want us to believe when God speaks to us. When you hear God’s voice, you may also have to deal with the voice of the enemy trying to get you to doubt that you have heard God correctly.

    What’s the solution? I believe a good part of the solution is moving forward despite our doubts. This is what Peter did when he started to walk on the water. He wasn’t completely sure that it was Jesus who was calling him, but he took the first few steps anyway. Unfortunately, he gave in to his doubts and began to sink (Matthew 14:29-30).

    May we be people who continue our conversation with the Lord despite our doubts and fears. In week 3 of the Listening to God Course we talk about doubt.

    Photo by Sander Sammy on Unsplash

  • The Driver With a Photographic Memory

    The Driver With a Photographic Memory

    When people speak of God’s voice through circumstances, they normally mean open and closed doors. If a door is open, they assume God is leading them to take a step through that door. If the door is closed, they assume God is telling them to do something else. This is NOT what I’m talking about in this post. When I speak of God’s voice through circumstances, I am talking about events in our lives that God uses to arrest our attention. Perhaps a story will illustrate what I mean.

    Aden’s Amazing Memory

    I arrived in Toronto late one night from a conference in Western Canada. After I deplaned, I pulled out my phone and checked Uber and Lyft, the two rideshare companies that work at Pearson Airport. Since Lyft was a few dollars cheaper, I booked my ride with Lyft. After a short wait, my ride pulled up: a black Honda Civic driven by a man with a big beard.

    Aden, the driver, was friendly and chatty. I sank back into the seat as the car pulled onto the highway. Aden’s friendly talk receded into the background as my mind began to fade into fatigue-induced oblivion.

    After about ten minutes, something caught my attention. Aden didn’t sound like he was raised in Canada. I began to engage with the driver. Our conversation went a little bit like the following:

    Neil: If you don’t mind, would you tell me your country of origin?

    Aden: My country is Somalia, but I grew up in Kenya.

    Neil: I was born in Somalia.

    Aden: You were born in Somalia? Wow, I don’t get many people born in Somalia.

    Neil: I spent time in Kenya too. There were a lot of Somalis in Nairobi.

    We talked about Somalia and Kenya for a while. Then Aden continued…

    Aden: We’ve had this conversation before. I picked you up 3-4 years ago downtown. I was driving for Uber then. I have a photographic memory. Between Uber and Lyft I’ve taken some 9,000 passengers, but I have never taken the same person twice. Even when I go to the same building, I never get the same passenger. You are the only person I’ve picked up twice. This is an amazing coincidence.

    Neil: And not only that, I was born in your country.

    That got me thinking. Sometimes coincidences occur because God is involved. I began to ask, Lord, what are you doing in this situation? What are you trying to say through this circumstance? The only answer I got was that I was supposed to ask Aden the same question. Our conversation continued…

    Neil: Do you believe in God?  I knew that most Somalis, like around 99%, are Muslim, but I didn’t want to assume anything about Aden. And I wanted to ease into my topic gently.

    Aden: I definitely do believe in God.

    Neil: What do you think God is saying through this coincidence, that you picked me up twice and I was born in Somalia? What message is God trying to communicate to you?

    Aden: (after thinking for a bit) You have something from God for me, a message from God for me. Something that will bring me success in life.

    Neil: I do have something for you. I carry something that is a key for you: the key to eternal life. Sometimes we are so focused on success in this life, but eternal life is what really matters.

    Aden: Yes, yes. You are right. If you give me your business card, I will definitely call you.

    At the end of my ride, I gave Aden my card. Perhaps you could pause for a moment to pray for Aden. Pray that he will find the key to eternal life.

    God’s Voice Through Circumstances

    As Aden correctly understood, there was a message from God for him in the unique circumstance he encountered. God was speaking to Aden.

    Indeed, the Bible shows us that God speaks through circumstances. God said to the returnees from exile who were focused on their own comfort, “Give careful thought to your ways. You have planted much but harvested little. You eat, but never have enough. You drink, but never have your fill. You put on clothes but are not warm. You earn wages, only to put them in a purse with holes in it….” “Why?” declares the LORD Almighty. “Because of my house, which remains a ruin, while each of you is busy with your own house.” (Haggai 1:5-6, 9) The returnees’ ongoing lack of economic success contained a message from God for them, if they had ears to hear it.

    We also see God communicating through circumstances in the New Testament. When the disciples forgot to bring bread with them, Jesus used that event to warn them about the teaching of the Pharisees and Sadducees (Matthew 16:5-12). There was a message for them in the circumstance, if they had ears to hear it.

    Have you recently faced an unusual circumstance? Why don’t you stop and ask God if he is trying to say something to you through it.

    Photo by Anas Ahmed

  • Swords in the Back

    Swords in the Back

    Last month I was reading the book of Zechariah during my devotions. Zechariah had to ask a lot of questions before he could understand the visions God showed him. Here are some examples:

    What he saw: A man on a horse in a ravine with red, brown, and white horses behind him. (1:8)
    What he said: What are these, my lord?

    What he saw: A man on a horse in a ravine with red, brown, and white horses behind him. (1:8)
    What he said: What are these, my lord?

    What he saw: Four craftsmen. (1:20)
    What he said: What are these coming to do?

    What he saw: A man with a measuring line in his hand. (2:1)
    What he said: Where are you going?

    We would think God would just give his message to Zechariah plainly. Or at least tell Zechariah the meaning of the visions he was seeing. But no, Zechariah must ask questions before the meaning is revealed to him.

    As we progress, we find that the angel starts asking Zechariah questions.

    Angel: What do you see? (4:2)
    Zechariah: I see a solid gold lampstand with a bowl at the top (4:3)

    The angel doesn’t explain further. Again, Zechariah must ask.

    Zechariah: What are these, my lord? (4:4) Still, the angel doesn’t explain. Instead the angel asks, “Do you not know what these are?” (4:5) Zechariah: No, my lord.

    If this isn’t bad enough, by the end of chapter 4, Zechariah has to ask the same question twice before he gets an answer.

    Zechariah: What are these two olive trees on the right and the left of the lampstand? (4:11) Zechariah again: What are these two olive branches beside the two gold pipes that pour out golden oil? (4:12) Angel: Do you not know what these are? (4:13) Zechariah: No, my lord.

    What is going on here?

    God, through the angel, is encouraging Zechariah to press in for deeper revelation. The more he seeks, the more the angel reveals. In the same way, God rarely tells us everything all at once. He wants us to press in to seek him more regularly and more deeply.

    Here is what happened to me eight days after I read Zechariah 4.

    A Vision of Swords

    I was visiting a church’s small group meeting. One of the members suggested we all pray for another member who was going through a hard time due to difficult family dynamics. When it was my turn, I put my hand on her shoulder and began to pray. As I prayed, I saw a mental picture of swords sticking out of her back. It was like someone had plunged them in and left them there.

    I was surprised at the vision. If her family members had caused her emotional pain, I would have expected to see swords piercing her heart, not her back.

    I asked, “Lord, what does this picture mean?” Unfortunately for me, the meaning did not immediately come. Remembering Zechariah, I kept asking, “Lord, What does it mean?” Finally, I clued into part of the vision: swords in her back was a pictorial representation of “backstabbing.”

    The dictionary defines backstabbing as follows: betrayal (as by a verbal attack against one not present) especially by a false friend.

    The Lord was showing that this woman had been betrayed. After my prayer was over, I told her what I had seen. She had indeed been a victim of backstabbing.

    As I spoke, further revelation came: if the flesh into which the sword has been plunged clings to the sword, further injury will occur. The flesh needs to release (i.e., forgive) and let go of the sword. Then it can be withdrawn and healing can occur.

    Here are my lessons from this story. Perhaps you have others.

    The Lord may give us a picture but not immediately tell us what it means. We shouldn’t be content with the picture; we should press in and ask the Lord what it means. As we speak out what God has given us, he frequently gives us more to share. Finally, if we are going to heal, we need to let go of the thing that has wounded us.

    May you press in deeper, and ask God questions when he speaks to you.

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  • I Saw You in a Dream

    I Saw You in a Dream

    Lane works among Spanish speaking migrant workers in Alberta. He shared this fascinating story in one of his recent newsletters.

    I had finished the latest chronological Bible Study with a group of seasonal workers from Mexico in Southern Alberta. After I finished the formal part of the study, I preached, reminding them of who Jesus was and that only through knowing Him can we be saved. Then I said, “All that is left now is to ask, ‘Who of you all would like to know Jesus, to trust Him for your salvation?’”

    I didn’t have to wait long before one of them put his hand up and indicated with great excitement that indeed he wanted to know Jesus. Then another slowly put his hand up and said that though he wasn’t going to attend that evening, something inside him said that he needed to, and he was glad he did.After him, another said the same thing. Soon, all nine men in the room indicated they wanted to know Jesus. I made sure they knew what they were saying, and I told them that if they were sincere, Jesus would send them His Holy Spirit and give them a holy nature so that God would see them as perfect and that they would be saved eternally. There was a great peace in the room. I prayed for all of them, I gave them my contact info, we took a picture, and they left, all but one man.

    Juan (not his real name) came up to me, right up to me, like two feet away from me, and said, “You aren’t going to believe me, but I know you.” I wasn’t sure I understood. He repeated himself. I was still confused and asked him how he knew me.

    He continued, “I saw you in a dream six months ago when I was still in Mexico. From the first time you showed up here at the greenhouse, I knew it was you.” I got goosebumps. I asked him if he was sure that it was me he saw in his dream. He said, “Yes. It was a white man with coloured eyes just like yours, it was you.” I asked him if there was a message associated with his dream. He responded that there was a message, and it was clear, “Listen to this man’s message.” I was dumbfounded.

    Then he told me about another dream he had shortly after the first one. The enemy appeared to him, but all he saw was his feet. The message from the enemy was, “You don’t need to listen to anyone, you are mine.” I put my hand on his shoulder and told him that a spiritual battle was taking place for his soul. Please pray for Juan and the other eight men who have, by their own confession, trusted Jesus. We have tentatively planned a baptism service when they get back next season.

    Thanks, Lane, for sharing with us. If you would like to know more about Lane or his ministry, feel free to reach out through the Contact Us form at the bottom of this page.

    Dreams in the Bible

    In the Bible there are several instances of God giving information in dreams and visions to people who are not yet believers. Cornelius is one example (Acts 10). Abimelek (Genesis 20:1-7) is another.

    Here Juan had a literal dream that gave him an instruction for his future. Most dreams, however, including the majority of the dreams recorded in the Bible, are symbolic. Symbolic dreams require interpretation.

    If you want to learn more about how God speaks in dreams, check out Chapter 3 of What if Listening to God Was Easy? or sign up for the Listening to God is Easy Course.

    I have a photo of Juan and the other workers, but since I don’t have their contact info, I am using a stock photo by Mark Stebnicki in this post.

  • A Tragic Accident

    A Tragic Accident

    Christine, a participant in Cohort 7 of the Listening to God course, shared this touching story.

    My mother died tragically in a car accident when I was 11 years old. The grief was devastating. A few weeks after her death, I was standing in my bedroom, looking out the window, watching the cars go by and the people walking up and down the street, laughing and talking. I remember thinking,How can life just go on? Don’t they know what has happened to me? Don’t they know that my whole world has been turned upside down?

    I looked towards the living room where my dad was sitting with a Bible open on his lap, sobbing as he did every day when he came home from work. He would sit in the chair, open his Bible, and sob.

    Then I looked outside and saw the people laughing and talking with their families as they were walking up and down the street. I heard God’s voice say clearly in my heart, “You have a choice. You can respond like your dad, or you can do like the people on the street.”

    I didn’t know which to choose. Laughing and talking like the people on the street seemed to disrespect my mother’s death. But grieving like my dad seemed overwhelming. Then I heard God’s voice again, “What would Mutti (the German equivalent of ‘mommy’) want you to do?”

    Without hesitation I said, “She would want me to embrace life, do the best that I can, live up to my full potential, and live out my days with joy!” Then God said to me. “Do that.”

    I only realized years later that God’s voice to me that day changed the trajectory of my life completely. Instead of being someone with a victim mentality, someone who made excuses for her behaviour by focusing on the devastating blow she was dealt as an 11-year-old little girl, I was set free to pursue joy, to grieve well but grieve with hope knowing my mom would have been cheering me on. God’s voice changed everything.

    Thank you, Christine! I am so glad you heard and responded to God’s voice. I believe many people hear God’s voice at various points in their lives, but only a few pay attention and act upon what God tells them.

    Photo by Waldemar on Unsplash

  • Lions and Wildebeest

    Lions and Wildebeest

    There is a danger we can fall into when listening to God’s voice. That danger is isolationism: thinking that me and the Holy Spirit is good enough; thinking, that since I can hear God’s voice myself, I do not need other believers. Let me illustrate the danger of this kind of thinking.

    I grew up in Kenya. During the school holidays my parents would take us to the Tsavo National Park. There, from the safety of the car, we would spot, gazelle, warthog, wildebeest, elephants, and on occasion, a pride of lions. Wildlife experts tell us that when lions hunt wildebeest, they work as a team. First, they run through the herd to scatter it. Then they focus on one animal separated far from the herd, and attack. An animal away from the herd is no match for the attacking lions.

    I suspect that Satan and his forces follow a similar tactic. If the powers of darkness can get us to isolate ourselves from the body of believers—from the church—then we become easy prey. Hebrews 10:25 tells us to not give up meeting together. This verse is a warning against isolationism, from getting separated from the body of believers, and thus becoming an easy target for our enemy the devil who prowls about like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. As we listen to Jesus, let’s make sure we stay connected to a body of believers.

    Lion photo by Bharath Kumar Venkatesh

    Wildebeest photo by Pawan Sharma on Unsplash

  • Should I Change My Flight?

    Should I Change My Flight?

    It was Saturday morning, and we were due to fly to the other side of the world—to Toronto—Tuesday evening. This was my second day of feeling sick with all the symptoms of a bad case of flu, or perhaps COVID: fever, sore throat, cough, runny nose, and weakness. I felt miserable. On top of that, a few days earlier, our office had asked me if we could delay our departure for a week. They had been working on our visa and they wanted more time to get our paperwork pending with the government completed. If we left before our paperwork was complete, we could expect to pay an overstay fine of $750 and deal with unpredictable immigration officials while exiting the country. On the other hand, delaying our flight would mean that we would miss a scheduled presentation at a large church, leaving them in a lurch.

    I was in a quandary and needed to hear from the Lord. I prayed and the answer I received was, “Don’t change the plan.”

    Later that day over lunch, some colleagues asked me, “Aren’t you worried? You don’t have a visa and you are leaving on Tuesday?”

    I didn’t know how to answer that question. I wasn’t worried, but I certainly did not know how things would turn out. All I knew was that I had asked the Lord a question and received an answer. My duty now was to obey. Over the next two days, I rapidly recovered from the illness. Then on Monday evening our government liaison officer texted me to say that we had received our visas. I can’t remember ever seeing documents processed so quickly.

    I was so thankful that I had listened to the Lord and didn’t change Tuesday’s flight. In case you are wondering, I did get tested for COVID, and the result was negative.

    Photo by Kit on Unsplash

  • Listening and Difficult Relationships

    Listening and Difficult Relationships

    Grace, a participant in one of our cohorts, shared the following story:

    Recently, when my sister was visiting me, we had an argument. She said, “I’m the only one working on this relationship and you keep throwing bricks at me!” I cannot remember what we had argued about. I also cannot remember what Liz meant by the word “working.” As I thought about her comment, I realized it wasn’t true. I had worked on the relationship, too—perhaps in a different way. Neither Liz nor I like cooking. However, I had made three separate dishes and stored them in the fridge before she had arrived to make sure we would have meals to eat. I don’t think she even looked in the fridge before she left.

    I longed to bring this to Liz’s attention and justify myself. Yes, unfortunately, my key motivation was to justify myself to my sister. However, as I was sleeping that night the distinct thought came to me, “Don’t bring up this issue with Liz. Just bury it.” After I awoke, I felt bad that we had parted on a negative note. I waited until I knew Liz would be awake and then phoned her. We had a friendly and peaceful conversation instead of the strife that would have occurred had I brought up the argument again. I’m convinced the Lord spoke to me in my sleep. As a result, Liz and I enjoyed peace in our relationship. This is in accord with Romans 12:18 which says, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
    —Grace

    Photo by Bryce Carithers

  • Growing in Discernment

    Growing in Discernment

    When listening to God, one of the key learning points is distinguishing which are God’s thoughts and which are our own.

    A couple of weeks ago, I was in town, looking for a multi-port fast charger for my tablet and phone. I had brought my tablet with me and tested the charger that the shopkeeper showed me. Although the device charged, the fast-charging function didn’t work. I decided not to buy the charger. As I was walking out of the store, I received a strong impression that said “buy it anyway.” I resisted that thought and went home. At home, I wondered was that the Lord? The impression sounded like the Lord, but it didn’t make sense logically. I wasn’t sure. I decided to buy the charger anyway the next time I was in that part of town. I reasoned that paying $5 was a small price to pay for growing in discernment.

    I bought the charger a few days later. I took it home and tried it on all my devices, and the fast-charging function most definitely did not work. Several months later, all but one of the charging ports failed completely. I never got good service from the charger and I never developed an ongoing relationship with the shopkeeper. No good came out of that purchase. I have since concluded that the strong impression to buy it had not been from the Lord.

    As I reflect on that event, several learning points come to mind.

    • Not every thought that pops into our minds is from the Lord. We must grow in discernment.
    • Most of the time, particularly when we are learning, there is a measure of reasonableness to God’s voice. If we continually receive impressions that have no basis in logic, and no clear good comes out of them, then we must learn to reject those impressions.
    • The proof is in the fruit. If the Lord tells us to do something, we can expect good fruit to come out of it. In the story in the post Too Tired to Decide, our reader found good fruit in the impression she received. They had a good time in their meeting together and were glad that they had met. If the Lord speaks, there will be good fruit.

    May the Lord bless you as you grow in discernment!

    Photo by Pedro Paiva

  • Too Tired to Decide

    Too Tired to Decide

    I love it when readers submit their stories. One of the Listening to God Newsletter readers shared the following:

    I lead a community Bible study group. We meet weekly at a friend’s place to read the Bible and pray together. One day, just as were arriving at our friend’s place, I received a text message saying that my friend was no longer able to host.

    I was tired, too tired to make a decision, and wondered if we should just cancel. The first person from our group I spoke with on the street said they were tired as well and wouldn’t mind canceling. Other members were arriving as we stood there, and I was not sure what to do. Finally, I said, “Let’s pray about it”.

    As we prayed about the situation, I heard the wordsstill meet enter my heart. These words were very quiet, but they gave me assurance about what to do. I knew my next task was just to work out where to meet. We ended up having a great time of fellowship together.

    Being familiar with God’s voice through previous prayer practices helped me to recognize God’s voice in that moment. 

    I believe the Lord longs to speak to us. He longs for us to live our lives in communion with him, asking him questions when we don’t know what to do. But listening to God takes a little bit of practice. This is where finding a safe community to practice comes in. Do you have a community where you can practice listening to God?

    Photo by Ravi Patel on Unsplash

  • Solutions for Little Problems

    Solutions for Little Problems

    I am on the board of a small church. One day, the chair of the board called me to discuss an issue. A member had made a request to the church. It would be awkward and potentially unwise for the church to grant the request. But not granting the request might leave the requester feeling embarrassed or angry. This was a sticky situation with no easy way out.

    Relying on my best wisdom, I suggested that two board members meet the requester in person and try to explain the church’s position in as gentle a way as possible. Complicated circumstances made that approach impossible. The situation was made worse by the short time frame needed to make a decision.

    The next morning, I was sitting in my room trying to finish my devotions when the Lord spoke to my heart. Call the person who made the request. My immediate response was to delay. Maybe I’ll do that later, I’ve got a lot on my plate this morning. And it’s not my problem anyway. But I put my Bible down and called him. That turned out to be a wise decision and diffused the situation. The requester thanked me the next day. My relationship with him deepened.

    What’s the point? God speaks to us. He has solutions for the little problems we face each day. Sometimes it is just a matter of paying attention to the thoughts he gives.

    Photo by Michael Morse

  • Hearing Jesus When We Hurt

    Hearing Jesus When We Hurt

    Did you know that the devil seeks to use your pain to stunt you spiritually? Did you know that Jesus loves to talk to you when you are hurting? His words bring healing. Let’s see how this works.

    You’re small-minded!

    Last August we were doing a session on inner healing. During that session, Carol shared a memory from high school.

    “Parochial.” That is what my home room teacher called me. And she said it all the way across the room, loud enough for everyone to hear. Parochial means “small-minded.” Her words stung, and her tone and facial expression communicated disdain for me. I felt embarrassed, ashamed, and minimized, wondering what I’d possibly done to deserve such judgement. Looking back, I can recognize the impact this has had upon my life. I felt shut down in a group setting. Even today, I hold back at times from sharing what I have to give in a group.

    This is a perfect example of the Lord bringing Carol back to what some people call a “root memory.” Root memories have a powerful, shaping influence on our lives, often negatively. In root memories, lies get implanted. If the devil can shut us down in childhood, then we don’t live out our influence as children of the King in adulthood. I believe the Lord brought that memory to mind because he doesn’t want Carol to be shut down. He wants her to offer her gifts to others.

    I’m not enough and nobody likes me

    Along the same lines, Sarah shared how she processed a difficult experience.

    I had a terrible team ministry experience when I was looking at different cross-cultural service opportunities. The team was in the storming phase and other members viewed me with suspicion. Ultimately they rejected me. I am still really sad that it didn’t work out. As I was reflecting on this with the Lord, the Lord brought me back to a childhood memory when I was in kindergarten or first grade.

    I wanted to play with some other children on the playground. I was trying so hard to make it work, but it wasn’t going well. The playground attendant said, “Can’t you see that they don’t want to play with you? Go play by yourself or play with someone else.”

    There was a clump of trees nearby, close to the road. I thought, OK, I’ll go play by myself in the trees. I headed for the trees. Then the playground attendant yelled at me for being too close to the road.

    That was just a very painful memory. I haven’t thought about it in absolutely years. The root lie in both the team ministry experience and the playground situation is “I am not enough, and nobody likes me.” What I sense God saying to me in these moments is, “You might not be enough, but I am always enough, and I like you.”

    I once read a book called Hurt People Hurt People. So many people just respond to pain in their lives and pass it on to other people.

    As I was reflecting on the team experience and the playground situation, this was one of the first times I heard God speaking in his still small voice. He said to me, “Healed people heal people and I am the God of healing.”

    Thanks, Carol and Sarah for sharing your stories.

    A simple inner healing process

    There are many ways to experience inner healing. Here is one simple way to deal with a difficult emotion that many people have found helpful.

    • Connect with Jesus in a happy memory. The joy and gratitude from the happy memory prepares your heart to hear Jesus’s voice.
    • Identify the painful emotion you are experiencing. Ask Jesus to take you to the first time you experienced this emotion.
    • In the painful memory ask Jesus what lie you believed. Ask him what truth he wants to replace the lie with.
    • If you get stuck, simply return to your initial happy memory.

    That’s one simple process. But it works so much better when you have someone to do it with. Why don’t you join one of the next cohorts?

    Photo by Юлія Дубина on Unsplash

  • Do Our Dreams Have Meaning?

    Do Our Dreams Have Meaning?

    In Week 5 of the Listening to God Course, we examine how God speaks through dreams. Here are some dreams from course participants:

    I had a dream and when I woke up, though I didn’t remember many details from the dream, I understood I should start taking multivitamins. Even though I had multivitamins at home, I kept postponing taking them. About a week later I developed a sore throat and a few days after that I started coughing. If I had started taking the vitamins the day I had the dream, I don’t think I would have fallen sick.
    —Maria

    As Maria experienced, God sometimes uses dreams to speak about practical matters in our lives. God used a fragment of one of my own dreams to spur me to action.

    In November I woke up with a funny word on my lips, evidently the remnant of a dream. I had no idea what the word meant until I checked my email inbox that morning. The word was the last name of a magazine editor I had written to several days prior. This dream prompted me to sit down and write an article, an article that was published in January.

    But sometimes our dreams don’t just deal with events in our own lives.

    During one of our classes, Ken shared a dream in which he saw massive destruction caused by flooding. He was a bystander in the dream, not affected by the flooding himself, but simply observing what was going on.

    The whole class tried to discover the meaning of this dream, but we just couldn’t figure it out. Three weeks later, Ken had the answer. He was watching TV one day and saw the same images on TV that he had seen in his dream—images of extreme flooding caused by unusual weather. Ken, it seems, had received a dream that predicted a future event. I wonder if God gave him the dream to teach him to pray.

    The Bible gives many examples of God speaking though dreams. Here are some examples:

    • Abimelech (Genesis 20:3)
    • Jacob (Genesis 28:12; 31:10-13)
    • Joseph (Genesis 37)
    • Pharoah (Genesis 41)
    • Gideon (Judges 7:13-15)
    • Solomon (1 Kings 3:5-15)
    • Nebuchadnezzar (Daniel 2)
    • Daniel (Daniel 7)

    Lest we think God communicating through dreams is only an Old Testament phenomenon, let’s remember what happened at Pentecost. Peter stood up and unequivocally taught that dreams are one of the ways in which the Holy Spirit speaks (Acts 2:17).

    God communicates through dreams, but most dreams are symbolic and therefore almost always require interpretation. If you want to learn more about how to understand dreams, you could read chapter 3 of What if Listening to God Was Easy? or sign up for the Listening to God is Easy course.

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  • “I’m Depressed”

    “I’m Depressed”

    “I’m depressed,” Jim said.

    “How long have you been feeling that way?” I asked.

    “Ever since I moved to this country.”

    Jim, Steve, and I were sharing and praying together during the small group time at an international workers conference in South Asia. The day before, Steve had shared deeply, setting the tone for today’s meeting.
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    Hearing Jim talk, I suspected there might be some buried issues in his heart, leading to his sense of depression. I asked Jim if he would like me to lead him in an inner healing prayer session. He was interested so I explained the simple inner healing model that I have found to be most effective.

    The prayer model is this: First, connect with Jesus in an emotionally positive way. Then, ask Jesus if there is any lie embedded in your thinking. Lies we believe are frequently the source of our unhelpful thinking and behavior. After the lie is identified, ask Jesus what truth he wants to give in place of the lie.

    Jim was keen to give this a try, so we plunged in. I suggested that Jim start by picturing Jesus sitting at the table with the three of us. After a few moments of silence, I invited Jim to share what he was thinking and feeling.

    Jim said, “Jesus is behind me.”

    “What is his emotion toward you?” I asked.

    “Joyful and playful.”

    “How do you feel in response to Jesus’s emotions?”

    “Irked that Jesus is so joyful.”

    I suspected that maybe I had just stumbled upon a buried lie. I advised Jim to ask Jesus what lie he was believing.

    Jim responded, “That a relationship with Jesus is a waste of time because I am not doing anything. If I am not doing something, I am not up to par.” I noticed a smile playing on Jim’s face. He told us that he just saw himself falling back into Jesus’s lap.

    I continued my questions. “When did you start believing this lie?”

    “I was trying to be number one in high school and college. This was pleasing others. Well, maybe it was pleasing myself. I never took a sabbath.”

    Knowing that a lot of our dysfunction stems from a warped sense of identity, I prompted another question. “Who does Jesus say that you are?”

    “He says, ‘You are mine.’”

    Clarifying what I had heard so far, I said, “I think the issue here, the lie that you are believing, is your value depends on your performance. Ask Jesus what the truth is.”

    “Grace.”

    “What does grace look like?”

    “Walking at Jesus’s speed.”

    “What does this look like in practice?”

    “Leaning back and resting in him and talking with him whenever I need to, like I am doing right now.”

    Trying to get a handle on the encounter he had just had with Jesus, Jim kept asking, “What just happened?”

    What happened was Jim had an experience with Jesus, an experience where he heard Jesus speaking into his heart addressing issues that were impacting his life. The good news is this kind of experience is not hard to replicate. All you need is a quiet place, a listening ear, faith to focus on Jesus, and some gentle questions.

    Note: This story is used with permission of the participants, but names have been changed.

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  • Charlie’s Morning Prayer

    Charlie’s Morning Prayer

    In a recent post I talked about asking the Lord a question as I started my day. A reader named Charlie responded as follows:

    The other day God caught my attention with a similar thought. I was praying John Stott’s “morning prayer” which begins with the words, “Good morning, heavenly Father. Good morning, Lord Jesus. Good morning, Holy Spirit.” Then the prayer leads into worship and some requests. 

    But that morning the Lord stopped me and said, “Why don’t you ever stop to see if I might want to greet you in return?” So, I backed up, started over, and stopped to listen after saying “Good morning, heavenly father.” What followed was something along the lines of a big smile, a “Good morning” in return, and then suddenly the memory of all the men who have acted like fathers/mentors to me over the years, including my own dad. The moment filled me with gratitude and still makes me smile. 

    Thank you, Charlie! That made me smile too. You know, the Lord speaks a lot. Our problem is that we need to train ourselves to stop and listen.

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  • Wisdom for Ruth

    Wisdom for Ruth

    The latest Listening to God Course just finished and God certainly showed up during our sessions.

    Our second last class was on prophecy. Prophecy can be a scary subject for some people. Yet, the Bible makes it clear that prophecy is for us today (Acts 2:17-18; 1 Corinthians 14:1; 1 Thessalonians 5:20). At the most basic level, prophecy is simply  communicating something on the heart of God to an individual or group. Like all forms of listening to God, prophecy must be tested (1 Corinthians 14:29; 1 Thessalonians 5:21).

    Ruth was a participant in Cohort 5. Here is what she had to say.

    Listening to God for Ruth

    Taking the Listening to God class has taught me so much. I’ve been encouraged to listen with greater attention to God’s nudges in my heart that were already there. I’ve learned more about what it means to listen and respond well in the moment. I’ve appreciated the considered and careful approach our instructor takes in each of the topics. This approach allows us to build on a solid foundation, grow through practicing listening to God, and learn through sharing our experiences with each other. 

    Last week was really powerful for each of us as we listened to God on behalf of each other. I was amazed at the many times similar themes surfaced for individuals from the other participants. My heart was overwhelmed by the kindness of God in going above and beyond to bring home a singular message to me as He repeated a message through numerous individuals. 
    —Ruth

    It was fun watching this session unfold. Out of the six people listening to God for Ruth, five mentioned the word “wisdom” in what they shared for her. There was definitely a common theme coming through!

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  • A Lost and Found Smartphone

    A Lost and Found Smartphone

    My friend, Xaver, writes…

    Recently I traveled by bus between two cities in Asia. During the journey, I checked my bag and couldn’t find my smartphone. The man sitting next to me was my colleague. He prayed for me and then asked me to look in my bag again. I emptied my bag completely but still couldn’t find it.  I started asking God, Why did this happen? Where is my phone? Was it stolen when my bag was unattended? I was really distressed and thought about all the trouble and cost involved in setting up a new phone. After asking God about my phone, I heard him say, Relax and get some sleep. When you arrive at the rest stop, you will get your phone back.  So, I calmed down and slept until the bus arrived at the rest stop. Then I asked my colleague if he would come with me to the restaurant. As we stood up, we saw that the phone was trapped between our seats.  My colleague said to me, “See, prayer works!” I was very encouraged because events happened exactly as I heard God tell me they would. 
    —Xaver              

    Well, I am encouraged too! And I am pretty impressed that Xaver could trust God enough to leave the matter in the Lord’s hands and fall asleep.

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  • The Lady in the Truck

    The Lady in the Truck

    This story comes from a newsletter reader named BB. For her, the key thing was stepping out in obedience. BB says…

    Last week, when I arrived early for our Church’s Vacation Bible School, I noticed a pickup truck in the almost empty parking lot. I waved to the driver and noticed that it looked like a lady. As I climbed out of my car and was reaching for my bag, I sensed the LORD telling me to go over to the truck and say, “Hello.” My first response was, “No.” But then I said, “Really LORD?” 

    I walked towards the truck with a smile on my face. It was a lady! I greeted her and introduced myself.

    Sam, short for Samantha, was taking a smoke break before she began her day job at a nearby farm. I told her about my niece who had the same name and nickname, but who had died four years ago from cancer. Then I told her my niece’s testimony, and our hope to see her again because of Jesus. 

    Sam, the young lady in the truck, said that her parents had not taught her anything about God. She was interested in religion and had done a lot of reading but had not settled on any one faith for herself. I told her about the God who loved her. She let me pray for her and accepted a couple of tracts. Since she needed to go to work, we said good-bye. I invited her to come to church. She said, “I will!”

    —BB

    Listening to God is not just for our own well-being. God longs to share his love with others through us. Here God brought BB to someone who had a hungry heart and God gave BB an open door to share a little bit about him.

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  • Broken Glasses

    Broken Glasses

    This story is from my friend Jonathan. He writes…

    As we were leaving very early in the morning for our flight to Pennsylvania, I had an odd hunch that my glasses would break and that I should throw a back-up pair of glasses in my bag. I did and forgot about it. A week later after speaking in a church service, I was in the car praying about the service and asking God some questions about whether I had handled things correctly in what I had said and done. In the middle of my prayer my glasses “popped” and broke on my face. It looks like they had been screwed in too tightly and the tension had finally made the plastic break. God is so good to give little confirmations of His hand and steering along the way.

    —Jonathan

    The Lord really wants our good and he is happy to warn us about things that will cause us trouble or inconvenience. On a much larger scale, God warned the church in Antioch about an impending famine (Acts 11:28). He warned Pharaoh about a famine too (Genesis 41). In both cases, those warned were able to take corrective action. But if we are going to hear God’s warnings, we need to learn to pay attention to these, sometimes very subtle, promptings.

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    Broken glasses image credit: Felix Gray. Permission requested.

  • A Thinking Person Listens to God

    A Thinking Person Listens to God

    Stephanie, a participant in Cohort 1 of the Listening to God Course writes:

    I recently led my daughter through a listening exercise. Afterwards she said, “Well that was different” and needed time to think about its implications. She has a cognitive kind of approach to life, so this was a new way for her to experience her faith.

    Well! She came back from a Christian camp and told me she had led her group through a listening exercise.

    I love this story because it shows just how easy it is for a person not only to come into a living encounter with Jesus, but lead others into the same. As Paul explained on Mars Hill, “[God] is not far from any one of us.” (Acts 17:27)

    Unfortunately, there are many who have powerful one-time experiences with the Lord, but do not come into a regular experience of hearing his voice. That is why learning and listening in community over several weeks can be so helpful. If you have been thinking about registering for the Listening to God Course, then why not do it right now? Click on the button below to get more info.

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  • Take the Later Flight

    Take the Later Flight

    This story is from Samuel, a participant in Cohort 2 of the Listening to God Course.

    We were deciding on flights for our journey to our holiday destination. Taking the earlier flight would mean less chance of a missed connection in case of a delay. But the earlier flight would also mean a longer wait in the airport—not easy with our two little girls. The later flight entailed a much shorter wait time, but was risky because a delayed first flight would mean an overnight wait in the capital city before we could get to our destination.

    My wife and I decided to listen to God about this. I received the impression that we should take the later flight. But after talking some more, we decided on the safer option, and so we booked the earlier flight. The next day the airline called. The earlier flight was cancelled and so they put us on the later flight. The Lord knew all that in advance and he did tell me.

    Listening to God is easy, but usually his voice calls us to take a step of faith.

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  • A Crazy Prayer

    A Crazy Prayer

    My wife and I were staying with some friends over the Eid-ul Fitr holiday. During my devotions one morning I asked the Lord what he wanted me to do that day. I heard the Lord tell me to pray for the family we were staying with—with them present.

    Later that morning I had breakfast with two men in the household. As the food was being served, I asked if I could pray before the day began. They agreed. I prayed for good sales at their business—a stall in a food court at a nearby mall.

    After the prayer, I thought to myself, Maybe that prayer wasn’t so wise. Their business has been losing money ever since it started.

    At the end of the day, we got some news. They just had their highest sales ever!

    Listening to God is easy and we can learn to hear his voice.

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  • How Can I Hear From God?

    How Can I Hear From God?

    A lot of people want to know, “How can I hear God’s voice?” Let me take the mystery out of this process and give you the answer right away: God’s voice will come to you primarily in the form of thoughts when your heart is fixed on Jesus.

    As Mark Virkler says in 4 Keys to Hearing God’s Voice , “His voice sounds like spontaneous thoughts that light upon your mind, especially as your heart is fixed on Him.” God doesn’t usually speak audibly. He doesn’t usually speak through overwhelming visions. He speaks through your thoughts when your attention is fixed on Jesus.

    His voice sounds like spontaneous thoughts that light upon your mind, especially as your heart is fixed on Him.

    Mark Virkler, 4 Keys to Hearing God’s Voice

    In this article, I will give you a process you can use both to prepare your heart and to hear God’s voice.

    How can I hear from God about practical matters?

    My friend Sam told me about a flight booking decision he had to make. He says…

    We were deciding on flights for our journey to our holiday  destination. Taking the earlier flight would mean less chance of a  missed connection in case of a delay. But the earlier flight would also  mean a longer wait in the airport—not easy with our two littlechildren. The later flight entailed a much shorter wait time, but was risky because a delayed first flight would mean an overnight wait in the capital city before we could get to our destination.

    My wife and I decided to listen to God’s voice about this decision. I received the  impression that we should take the later flight. But after talking some more, we decided on the safer option, and booked the earlier flight. The next day the airline called. The earlier flight was  cancelled and so they put us on the later flight. The Lord knew all that in advance and he did tell me.

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    Sam heard God’s voice and you can too. This article will show you how.

    Start With the Desire To Hear God’s Voice

    When the prophet Jeremiah was imprisoned in the courtyard of the guard, God said to him, “Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know” (Jeremiah 33:3).

    We learn two important lessons about how to hear God’s voice from this verse. First, if you want to hear God’s voice, you must desire to hear from him.

    Imagine a hiker on a mountain trail. Imagine the hiker falls and is injured. He calls out for help. Why does he call? Because he longs for someone to answer him, someone to come near and rescue him.

    Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know

    Jeremiah 33:3

    You call out when you want something. The act of calling denotes desire.

    This principle of desire is found throughout Scripture. Jesus told his hearers in the Sermon on the Mount to “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7). Asking, seeking, knocking are all words indicating desire.

    For more on this topic, see “Desire and the Kingdom of God.”

    The other thing we learn about hearing God’s voice from Jeremiah 33:3 is that God has things to say. He has secrets that he wants to tell you. God is not silent and aloof. He is just waiting for us to call and to desire for him to speak to us.

    Deal With Your Fears About Hearing God’s Voice

    During one training session I was leading on how to hear God’s voice, one participant said, “I am not hearing God’s voice because I am afraid of what he might say.”

    Why are we so afraid? Part of the issue is that we do not understand the depth of God’s love for us. Recently, at a conference, I met a man named Kenneth Williams. Ken repeatedly struggled with alcohol addiction. One night, in the midst of a drunken stupor, homeless, dirty, and dishevelled, he had a vision of God. “This bright light shone in the darkness. I thought it was the police [and] I had to find my bottle and run.” Source: Kenneth Williams

    I am not hearing God’s voice because I am afraid of what he might say.

    Then a peace came over him. From within the light he heard a voice that said, “I see you and I love you. I love you just the way you are. Come follow me.” Ken got into a detox program, got a job, married, and blessed many others through his life.

    God loves us so deeply! He loves us the way we are now. If we come and follow him, he will gradually transform us, just as he transformed Ken. Let’s not be afraid of hearing God’s voice.

    1. Quiet Your Heart

    2. Focus on Jesus

    3. Ask a Specific Question

    4. Wait for God to Speak

    5. Write Down the Answer

    6. Test What You Received

    Quiet Your Heart so That You Can Hear God’s Voice Above the Other Voices

    One study says that the average smartphone user receives 146 notifications per day. If we assume phones are off for 8 hours at night, that works out to 9 notifications per hour or once every six and half minutes on average. We are not only bombarded by smartphone notifications, we are also surrounded by noise from radios, TVs, advertisements on billboards, and the sensational headlines in the newspaper. There is noise everywhere.

    The average smartphone user receives 146 notifications per day.

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    It is no wonder that we struggle to hear God, we have too many other voices clamouring for our attention. If we are going to become proficient in hearing God’s voice, then we must learn how to be silent. For those addicted to noise and stimulation, this will not be an easy task.

    It is not only modern day people who need to learn to quiet their hearts. The ancients did as well. In 2 Kings 3 we read how the King of Israel, the King of Judah, and the King of Edom asked Elisha for a word from the Lord to get them out of a life and death situation.

    It seems that even the great prophet Elisha couldn’t give them a word immediately. He needed some time to quiet his heart, so he called for a harpist. While listening to the harpist, the hand of the Lord came on Elisha and he was able to give the kings the answer they needed.

    If you want to hear God’s voice, then you will need to develop a practice of being quiet and still. These days I spend some time listening to worship music before I have my morning time of hearing God’s voice.

    Focus on Jesus, the Voice of God

    In John 1, Jesus is identified as the Word of God. This descriptor tells us in unequivocal language that God communicates. And one of the primary ways that God communicates is through Jesus.

    In John 10:3, using figurative language of a shepherd and his sheep, Jesus tells his followers that “he calls his own sheep by name and leads them out.” Jesus speaks.

    In the post-resurrection visions recorded in the New Testament, most of the time, it is Jesus who appears and speaks. Who did Paul meet on the road to Damascus? Jesus (Acts 9:5). Who told Ananias to go and pray for Paul? Jesus (Acts 9:17). Who spoke to Paul in Corinth? Jesus (Acts 18:9-10). Who appeared to Paul in the temple? Most likely Jesus (Acts 22:17-21). Who appeared to John in the Book of Revelation? Jesus (Revelation 1:17-18).

    If we want to learn how to hear God’s voice, then meditate on Jesus.

    Ask a Question That You Want God’s Voice To Answer

    Sometimes we have 10 questions to ask, all jumbled together in our minds. Even if we heard God’s answer, it wouldn’t make sense because we wouldn’t know what question it applied to. David faced that question when he was at the city of Keilah.

    David and his roving band of fighters had been protecting the city of Keilah from enemy attacks. The men of Keilah welcomed David and his men into the city. When David’s arch-enemy Saul heard that David was inside a walled city, he thought he had him caught.

    All Saul would have to do is surround the city and say to the leaders, “If you don’t throw David’s head over the wall, we will burn this city down.”

    David was in a quandary and needed to hear from God.

    Then David said, “O LORD, the God of Israel, your servant has surely heard that Saul seeks to come to Keilah, to destroy the city on my account. Will the men of Keilah surrender me into his hand? Will Saul come down, as your servant has heard? O LORD, the God of Israel, please tell your servant.”(1 Samuel 23:10-11).

    David asks all his questions at once. God however, answers them one at a time.

    And the LORD said, “He will come down.” 23:11b

    After David gets the answer to the first question, he must move on to the next.

    Then David said, “Will the men of Keilah surrender me and my men into the hand of Saul?” And the LORD said, “They will surrender you.” 23:12

    Likewise, we need to first figure out what our questions are. After we have done this, we can present them to the Lord one by one.

    Wait for God To Speak

    We quiet our hearts. Then we focus on Jesus by spending some time meditating on him. Then we identify our questions and ask them one by one. After each question, we pause and wait for an answer. More often than not, the answer will come as a thought alighting on our mind.

    Write Down What You Heard From God

    As soon as answers, or what might be an answer, comes, we need to write it down or verbalize what we have received.

    There is an important scientific reason for this. The visual cortex is the part of the brain which processes information from the eyes and is also active during imagination and visualization. The temporal lobe creates meanings out of sensory input and is also the area of the brain where language is processed. If we do not speak out or write down what we have received, what we receive stays hazy and unclear. The act of speaking or writing forces us to clarify what we have received.

    When God was training the prophet Jeremiah, he told Jeremiah to speak out what he had seen (See Jeremiah 1:11-12).

    Evaluate What You Received

    When we want to hear God’s voice, we may hear from God, we may hear our own thoughts, or we may hear the voice of an evil spirit. How can we tell whose voice we are hearing?

    But test everything; hold fast what is good.

    1 Thessalonians 5:21

    There are a number of tests we can utilize to clarify whose voice we are hearing. This is the topic of a future post.

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